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Late miscarriage post-mortem results

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cheekymummy89 · 08/10/2021 20:58

Ahh I don’t know where to start! I lost my beautiful boy back in July very suddenly. All appeared well at 12 week scan and then again at private gender scan. During my routine 20 week scan I was told my baby’s heart had stopped. I was induced that same weekend. We opted for post-mortem as we already have children without any issues and no pregnancy complications. We got the results back today and they have told us they found he had a heart defect, there was a problem with his spine and abnormal blood vessel in the placenta. I was 19 weeks at the ultrasound but he actually measured and been confirmed he died at 17 weeks. I honestly cannot stop thinking that I may have done or not done something which has contributed to his death 😭 we are being referred to a genetic counseller too. I managed to start to move forward and accept that my baby died but this has made me feel so bad and I suddenly feel guilty but I don’t know why!

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Nifedipine · 08/10/2021 21:43

So sorry you have lost your beautiful boy. From what you were told it seems that unfortunately there were multiple factors, likely meaning genetic origin. There is nothing one can do to avoid that sadly. Hope genetic counselling will give you some reassurance and allow you to let go of the guilt. Sending you much love!

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