Missed miscarriage.

80sPadme · 2021-09-20T06:13:36+00:00

I had a private scan yesterday and discovered that sadly our baby had passed a couple of weeks ago. The lady at the scan looked almost as upset as we did. I guess I would like to know what happens next. My body obviously hasn't recognised that the pregnancy has ended. How do I go about managing the situation i.e. can I take a tablet or do I have to go for surgery or can I just wait to see what happens and if I wait how long does it usually take. I'm a mess but really just want this next bit over so I can move on from how I feel right now. I don't know how I'm gonna cope with an expert which is why I want to get it done ASAP as my partner has a week off work and can be at home with me.

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80sPadme · 20/09/2021 07:14

'Next bit' not 'expert'

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Izzy24 · 20/09/2021 07:19

I’m so sorry to hear about this. It is a such a shock to go to a scan and discover this. If you contact your midwife/maternity unit this morning they will organise an appointment for you with your early pregnancy service (hopefully today or tomorrow) who will take things from there. I’m glad your partner has this week off and can be with you while you go through the next steps.

onedream · 20/09/2021 07:21

I'm sorry this is happening to you, I was in similar situation in February, private scan detected baby well behind with no heartbeat. I called my GP who referred me to Early pregnancy unit at the hospital, went for scan which confirmed the private one findings, had to come back after 10 days to confirm no growth or change but I started to bleed day or two before the rescan anyway.
So if you can contact your early pregnancy unit or gp and they will scan you, probably twice. If you don't start bleeding by the second scan they will offer you options, tablets or wait it out. Maybe d&c too but I have heard they try to encourage tablets or wait it out rather then the op. Sending you strength

Robgem81 · 20/09/2021 07:56

So sorry for your loss. It's just so heartbreaking. I have had two MC this year and it's really frustrating and emotionally hard. For my first I had started spotting around 7 weeks. A scan at 11 weeks showed the baby had died at 8 weeks. I think the scan at 11 weeks was the start of me properly miscarrying naturally, so it did take some time. I had the D&C as just wanted it over although I had a lot of bleeding the day before which was not a nice experience (obviously). The second I caught much earlier at 6 weeks and opted for D&C straight away which I had the next day. I am lucky that they will test this one for any chromosomal problems.

It's hard to know what to do and the body can take some time to recognise the baby has died but it can also be quick too. Get some good advice from the EPU and go with what you feel you will be most comfortable with. Sending big hugs xxx

poppy101010 · 20/09/2021 20:31

I'm so sorry for your loss 💔. I was told I had a missed miscarriage on 9th August I had a twin pregnancy and should have been 9weeks. Sadly there was no development after about 7 weeks for either baby. It's the hardest thing I've ever had to hear.

I had to have another scan to confirm the MMC. Both scans were a day apart. A nurse at EPU then spoke to me about how I want to progress and given 3 options - expectant management (you let nature take it course), medical management (you are given medication to start the process), or surgical management (a day surgery to remove the pregnancy). I opted for surgical management as I just wanted it all over and couldn't face it happening at home when I was alone.

My surgery went well and I was given a 2 week sick line. I was home later that day and in bed . I felt physically better after 2 days, but needed the time to come to terms with it all and couldn't face work.

This was only my experience and I would defo encourage you to contact your EPU.

There is also information on the miscarriage association website that you might find helpful. You might find the information a difficult read so please give yourself time. Just be kind to yourself ❤️ and please get ask any other questions u might have.

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80sPadme · 20/09/2021 21:46

I have an appointment for Wednesday to have a second scan and look at medical management

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Jadeypipsqueek · 21/09/2021 19:57

@poppy101010

I'm so sorry for your loss 💔. I was told I had a missed miscarriage on 9th August I had a twin pregnancy and should have been 9weeks. Sadly there was no development after about 7 weeks for either baby. It's the hardest thing I've ever had to hear.

I had to have another scan to confirm the MMC. Both scans were a day apart. A nurse at EPU then spoke to me about how I want to progress and given 3 options - expectant management (you let nature take it course), medical management (you are given medication to start the process), or surgical management (a day surgery to remove the pregnancy). I opted for surgical management as I just wanted it all over and couldn't face it happening at home when I was alone.

My surgery went well and I was given a 2 week sick line. I was home later that day and in bed . I felt physically better after 2 days, but needed the time to come to terms with it all and couldn't face work.

This was only my experience and I would defo encourage you to contact your EPU.

There is also information on the miscarriage association website that you might find helpful. You might find the information a difficult read so please give yourself time. Just be kind to yourself ❤️ and please get ask any other questions u might have.

I too found out on the 9th that our baby had stopped growing at 7 weeks :( and i too opted for surgical management - was home just after lunch and felt better 2 days later x i went back to work on the monday Purley because i couldn't face being at home over thinking things but everyone ia different and there's no right or wrong way to deal with these things :(

I hope everything goes ok for you tomorrow xx its such an awful situation to be in xx