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Advice appreciated- 6 week medical management

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caramelcracker · 26/08/2021 13:19

Hello,

I recently found out at a scan that I had a missed miscarriage. I am meant to be 10 weeks at present, gestational age of 6 weeks.

There was an error made by the clinic in arranging my medical management. I am now having the misoprostol (2 days after the initial mifepristol) 6 days before we are going on holiday.

It is a UK holiday but 6 hours away from home. We will be seeing family (though not staying with them) that we personally don't want to know about our loss. For various reasons, I am really keen to go on the holiday if at all feasible, and not possible to reschedule with work.

Obviously, if there is a significant complication, such as bleeding not starting, we would have to cancel. It would be awkward to make up a reason for this, and I would also feel sad to miss something I have been looking forward to.

Really very grateful for opinions, particularly from those who have had a loss around this gestation. Is the bleeding likely to be manageable by the point at we are leaving? Does it seem reasonable that if there is expected bleeding etc, that we are going, hoping there are no further complications?

I've discussed with the staff at EPAU, and they think it should be fine but were fairly vague about this- and that we can just attend local A+E etc if problems.

Would appreciate thoughts from someone who has been through the process though, on whether this sounds vaguely sensible as a possible plan.

Thank you, and sorry to everyone who has been in this position in the past Flowers

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swanswallow · 26/08/2021 15:34

Hopeful bump!

FPower · 26/08/2021 21:28

I have just had my last lot of medication (4 doses in total!) my experience has been bleeding a lot on the day I have the medication and then it tails off in the next couple of days.
I could go away 6 days after I’m sure, I would just need a few pads to change as it’s more like a period for me after a couple of days. although the medication doesn’t seem to be working well for me as I’ve had a few doses now, fingers crossed it’s a quicker experience for you.
So sorry for your loss ❤️

PenguNoodle · 26/08/2021 22:04

I had misoprostol and bleeding started fairly quickly, within 6 hours. Bleeding was really heavy the first two days, then got a bit less but I was still wearing really big pads. By day 4 I think I was back to normal period pads.

I think you should be fine to go on your trip though

Sorry for your loss

Frazzledazzles · 26/08/2021 23:48

I’m sorry for your loss.

It took me three days to pass what seemed like everything (as it started up every evening and lasted for a couple of hours). But then 5 nights later (so 8 days from the dose) the cramps started up again in the evening and I thought the miscarriage was finally finished.

It wasn’t though and I needed another round of medical management two weeks after the first.

Different for everyone of course and maybe I was just unlucky with the way it went.

Re: seeing family though, I would take into account how exhausted you could feel physically as well as mentally.

We had the in laws round for lunch about a week into this - it was the Christmas period so felt that we should. They only stayed for a couple of hours and I remember feeling absolutely desperate for them to leave, with my stomach still hurting and wanting to lie down.

DH and I were discussing this just the other day and I asked him : “Why DID we have them over just after going through that?” and he replied “I’ve got no idea, why didn’t we just sack it all off and hide out on our own?” Confused

You want to go on the holiday and aren’t actually staying with family so that it is easier for you but maybe make a plan in advance so that you have an excuse to cancel meeting or to leave early if you aren’t feeling good x

caramelcracker · 27/08/2021 00:04

Thank you so much for the thoughtful replies, and I am sorry for everyone who has also experienced this loss.

That's really helpful to know in terms of hopefully being fine within 6 days, however really appreciate the caution as well- I had no idea really that it was a reasonable possibility to need multiple doses of misoprostol- hope this dose works for you @FPower, take care.

Good also to have preplanned reasons to leave early etc, very helpful to think about in advance rather than be stuck and under pressure at the time.

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