Missed Miscarriage Last Chance Baby

[Gumboots29]

I had my dating scan yesterday and sadly found out that my baby had stopped growing several weeks ago.

I am extremely lucky to already have two children and this baby was a surprise. We were absolutely delighted and as we’d reached 12 weeks, the idea of our third had really settled in our minds.

I’ve not really begun to process it all yet but some of the medical people have spoken to have told me I can try again soon. The idea of that would bring me a lot of comfort (and did with a previous much earlier MC before my last baby). But for us, this was our last chance baby. I would have been due just before 40 and my husband just before 45. We struggled to get pregnant with the other two and we just don’t feel we have it in us to try again.

Has anyone been in this situation? I just don’t know how to move on as it all feels so final.

So sorry for what you’ve gone through. I’m in a similar position but for different reasons, I had a difficult pregnancy with my first child and this one has been even worse. I know there’s no way I could put us all through it again and we are completely agreed on that. It feels so final and depressing, I wish things could have been different.

@Glowinthedarkskeleton I’m so sorry you’re also in this situation. I’m feeling so confused emotionally about really wanting another baby but actively choosing not to.

I don’t even feel depressed or properly sad yet. I think I’m refusing to process it. My miscarriage isn’t complete either so I’m in total limbo.

I hope you have some support x