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I might be pregnant again and I’m petrified

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Newgirl21 · 16/08/2021 22:23

Hi,
I had a missed miscarriage 7 weeks ago. I was 11.5weeks. It was a really difficult time for us and it’s taken a while for me to feel able to talk about it without breaking down.
My Husband was keen to start trying again, I was a little more worried but still wanted to extend our family. So we decided to take the pressure off and just take it as it comes, without protection.
I’m still waiting for my period to arrive following a D&C, I’ve not had any pregnancy symptoms but took a test anyway and after a few minutes a very faint line - only just visible appeared.
I don’t know how I’m supposed to feel following a pregnancy loss but I am petrified- I’m not sure I can go through another miscarriage, I’m scared that if I am pregnant I’m not going to enjoy the pregnancy through fear of it happening again.
Has anyone been through similar? How long shall I leave it before taking another test for a more accurate/clear reading?

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Newgirl21 · 16/08/2021 23:09

Does this look like a true positive?

I might be pregnant again and I’m petrified
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RoseAndGeranium · 16/08/2021 23:15

Hi OP, I'm really sorry to hear about your miscarriage. It's such a horrible experience, especially when it happens so late in the trimester. I had one at 12.5 weeks and it was absolutely crushing, so I have some idea of what you're going through. Unfortunately I suffered a second miscarriage several months later at 6 weeks which definitely didn't help my general sense of doom. However, I'm now 35 weeks pregnant! I won't lie, the first trimester was tough and I have been more anxious generally throughout this pregnancy than I was when I was pregnant with my first child. BUT, I found that the first few days were the worst. I don't think most people's minds are capable of sustaining that pitch of anxiety for prolonged periods -- we adjust to some uncertainty and it gets easier.
For me, the severity of my symptoms was a good guide to the health of the pregnancy: with the first miscarriage I never felt anything like as sick as I had with my first baby, whereas in my current pregnancy I felt even worse, which made it a lot easier to cope emotionally (if not physically...) If that's just not how your body or pregnancies work, though, I know many women who have been through this find early scans can offer a lot of comfort once they get beyond the 7 week mark. Honestly, I'd give it a couple of days before testing again. What you'll want is to see a much clearer line, and you have the best chance of that if you leave it for a bit longer. Either way, congratulations on getting pregnant again so soon. That's a great sign in itself -- you might have seen the research showing that the chance of a second miscarriage is lower if you conceive again within 6 months, so keep that in mind as a boost. And good luck, both with the pregnancy and with the anxiety about it.

Newgirl21 · 16/08/2021 23:37

Thank you @RoseAndGeranium for your reply, it really has helped to ease my anxiety. I wasn’t aware of the research but hearing it has put my mind at ease. Thank you.
I’m sorry to hear of your previous losses, this forum has been so helpful - talking to people who have had similar experiences and can speak honestly and openly. I don’t think someone can truly understand the trauma and agony of miscarriage unless they have been unfortunate to experience it themselves.
Congratulations on your pregnancy @RoseAndGeranium ☺️

I’m going to definitely take your advice and test again in a few days maybe a week so that I know for sure. Going forward I guess I need to take one day at a time.

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