Miscarriage

[Emily778821]

I am totally devastated. I just had a miscarriage. I have 2 young children already and never had a miscarriage before. Can't describe the feeling was loving my baby already. The father wanted a baby with me but when I told him I was pregnant he told me to have an abortion. I was still going to keep the baby but does anyone think my emotions the stress and the memory of what he told me to do that kept coming back might that have caused the miscarriage in any way or was there nothing I could have done to prevent it?
Feeling so so down about it cried a lot and can't sleep. I feel I need to talk a lot about it. I know this pain will not go away just like that.

Love to you all.

Nothing you have felt or done will have caused the miscarriage, it is just one of those things that happens sometimes, no reason. Nature can be cruel, take some time to grieve & put yourself back together, don't rush anything. There is always someone here if you need to talk x

Thanks for your response x I just thought that it was a big coincidence that I miscarried this baby after feeling down when my 2 first childrens' pregnancies went absolutely perfect as there were no doubts in my head for them. But maybe nothing to do with it. Thanks for reassuring and if you want to share anything too feel free it's nice to exchange our experience x

Hi @Emily778821
I’m so sorry to hear of your loss and experience. Miscarriage is just awful. I have recently had one and had similar questions around stress and anxiety and whether it can cause miscarriage in any way. But everything I’ve read and the doctor, early pregnant unit and GP I’ve spoken to have all said the same thing: stress doesn’t cause miscarriage. I hope that can be of some comfort to you that it wasn’t due to your stresses. Take care, sending hugs x

it is awful indeed No matter how small that baby was every life that gets created cannot be replaced. Thanks for sharing and reassuring me x