Miscarriage now

[Houserenoqueen]

I have a thread in the pregnancy board but seems more appropriate to post here.
7 weeks today and I started bleeding heavily this morning. No clots but...stringy this afternoon and period like cramps. I’m assuming this is definitely a miscarriage.

Can anyone who’s been through this share experiences? Am I safe to open the wine to drown my sorrows? Is there any chance it’s not a miscarriage?

Finally got through to my GP this afternoon who has referred me to EPU for a scan, but it won’t be until mid next week.

Any other wisdom to share? Not my first pregnancy and I naively assumed everything would be fine but this has really knocked me. I have two one year olds so not much time to rest but wondering whether to take some time off work next week.

I'm sorry you're going through this but I guess you won't know for certain unless you have a complete miscarriage whereby you see the baby and sac come out or you get it confirmed at EPU.

I had a complete miscarriage in feb. I was referred to EPU for bleeding and saw heartbeat but my dates were wrong, baby was measuring over a week behind. Came home, had cramping and a little more bleeding and miscarried very quickly.

But I have heard lots of stories of women who have lots of bleeding and all has been fine! I think if you get cramping as well then that's more concerning. Will keep my fingers crossed for you

Thank you @acupofteamakeseverythingbetter.

I’m certain I’m miscarrying. It’s a lot of bleeding plus the cramps. I hate the limbo of waiting for it to be confirmed. I also hate the fact I will have to go alone because of covid.

Did you ttc again after your miscarriage?

Also this may be quite graphic but if you go to the toilet you may want to use a sieve to catch anything should you miscarry. When I miscarried, that baby came out in my knickers which I was glad because I was able to see and confirm. But I've read stories of women that were really upset theirs went into the toilet before they could even realise. Sending you lots of love

I went through it alone too as I miscarried in feb this year at 7 weeks.

We waited for first period and started ttc straight away. Not had any luck yet unfortunately and it's so heartbreaking.

@acupofteamakeseverythingbetter can I ask an equally graphic question? Does a lot come out and is it identifiable to anything? I’m quite scared about that bit. So far it’s like a heavy period.

My 6 week loss looked like a large kidney bean I had no idea what it was, poked it a bit thinking it was a large clot but it didn’t disintegrate like a clot. Flushed it and only really thought about what it was after. Really regretted that.

I had started spotting on the weds, progressed through Thursday and on Friday lunchtime had cramps bad enough to need to sit down and catch my breath. Heavy bleeding Saturday, thought it was all over Sunday and waved DH away on a transatlantic work trip. Early hours Monday morning thought I would need to call an ambulance that much pain, when to loo passed the sac and after that it all replaced quite quickly. Physically, but took a much longer emotionally.

Don't worry about being graphic I'm happy to share as I've been through it and it's such a lonely experience.

For me it was identifiable as I had a complete miscarried. There was a big round (I thought it was a large clot) but when I turned it over and looked more closely it was like clear jelly (the sac) with the baby inside. I was measuring 5+6 and I should have been 7+1 so the baby was only about 3mm.

I had terrible cramping for about and hour and as soon as the sac came out the cramping stopped immediately.

But this seems to be really quick from what I've read online. Some women have cramping and bleeding for days and may have tissue and clots come out every so often.

I was able to go to EPU the next morning to have it confirmed and then a few days later I had more cramping and another clot came out almost like a hard muscle!

I really didn't have very much bleeding at all but every woman is different.

I also took the following week off of work to help try and recover emotionally and physically.

Let me know if there's anything else you'd like to know

@Blondiecub0109 sorry for your loss. I agree that the emotional toll is far harder that the physical side.

I had light spotting for a week so was referred to EPU, had scan at 12 noon where I saw the heartbeat, then but about 5.45pm the same day I miscarried, was such a shock.

Thank you for sharing this. Sorry to hear about your experience too @Blondiecub0109 and for both sharing the graphic bits I asked about. I didn’t think about the possibility of regretting not seeing/ just flushing.

I am alone with my twins tomorrow so hopefully I can cope. At least its then the weekend so DH can take over.

I am worried about the emotional recovery. It was an unplanned pregnancy and we’d had a lot of discussion about if/how we could make it work with 3 under 2 but I was secretly excited. I was also going through a bit if a panic about life regret and considering resigning from my job to look after our kids FT and this experience just makes that desire stronger, but I wonder if it’s a rash decision (I am the breadwinner and it would mean moving house). Anyway I am digressing.

Did you have any tests afterwards to explain why you miscarried? I worry that mine is due to a uti I had or because my progesterone is low (I took progesterone in my last pregnancy).

I had two miscarriages one in December at 6 weeks and didn't see anything come out. I also had a medical managed miscarriage in March at 9+3 and saw a proper tiny baby come out.
Both times we waited for first period and then tried again. Got pregnant first and second month. I'm 4 weeks now so fingers crossed.

Having said all that I've bled with 3 of my previous pregnancies and one ended in a very healthy baby. My mum also bled with my sister. Lots of blood and large clots. She 17 now so doesn't always mean the worst.

They won't do any tests until you've had 3 miscarriages. One is so common. 1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage and only 1% of women go on to have a second or more.

Hi @spookycookies I recognise you from the other thread :)

Good to know re the testing. I don’t have the energy to request any tests but am under a geneticist so wonder if she would request tests if I pushed as I’ve read that most miscarriages are because the baby has a genetic issue. My oldest child had a serious condition and died young, and when my others were born they were ready to do genetic tests on the placentas.

I have my fingers crossed for you for a happy and successful pregnancy.

@Houserenoqueen I hope everything's ok for you. Ask for testing if you think it would help. Look after yourself.

So sorry that you have to experience this @Houserenoqueen and sorry @acupofteamakeseverythingbetter That you are in the club that no-ones wants to be a part of.

The miscarriage association are an excellent resource that my lovely GP signposted me to after I went to see her about 6 weeks after and said I was super struggling. I imagine a surprise pregnancy ending MC in a horrid emotional rollercoaster so please be easy on yourself.

My MC was after IVF, a frozen transfer off the back of a fresh that didn’t even implant (bleeding before test date). I was convinced that I had done something wrong - not taken the progesterone pessary at the right time or been too stressed etc. But I was assured my all the professionals if was just ‘one of those things’ and statistically normal.

I went on to have 2 DC via IVF with embryo that weren’t as ‘good’ as the ones I lost.