Firstly Tommy's is a baby loss charity - they have a telephone line you can call to speak to MW trained in dealing with baby loss. There's also a Tommy's fb group that's private where you can talk to others about baby loss. Incredibly amount of support on there
Dc means your body heals faster which sometimes doesn't align with a women's mental anguish which is sometimes something people need to go through to heal. There isn't really any right way or wrong way in this game.
Weather the storm needs to be joint effort, this means talking, participating in rituals to grieve your baby together. I planted a rose for each of my babies, he bought elephants. This is a death, mark it and don't let anyone tell you how or what you should do. It's your choice.
Remember you can't ignore the storm in the sea, you just have to sometimes go with it and learn how to tread water. Your head will go under, you will come up again, it will get easier but there will be days where you just keep going down and your drowning and the sea is rough. There will be days that you couldn't imagine a prettier view. You cannot avoid grief you have to move through it.
In a sad way I would argue that grief is just love in its many forms, and the love you had for this baby isn't something you would wish away. Even though it hurts. Move through it, not away.
The hole in your hearts may not heal completely but in time your heart will grow space for another to love. One doesn't replace the hole, that's now there for life but it will get more manageable. You will learn to swim.One day you maybe in a position to help another person in the pits of hell, carrying water to help put out flames that you were once consumed with.
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Thinking of you. Please give your head space to grieve the loss