Funeral for miscarried baby

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Hi, I'm hoping I'm asking im the right forum
Is a funeral service for a miscarried/lost baby a common thing.
The baby was lost at around 12 weeks.
I've never heard of this before.
Thank you

It’s not common but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t go ahead if it will help you to grieve (or the person who has lost the baby if it’s not you).

Our local crem holds a service once a month for parents to attend. I don't want to upset you, but often there is nothing to bury or cremate. Especially if you manage it at home, medically. But they hold a service and say prayers, light candles etc. There might be something similar nearby.

Thank you.
What will the service involve
Is it for a number of parents or an individual service?

I don’t think there’s a standard format.

Why do you ask?

As above there may be local services to attend. X

A friend is considering arranging something and its something I've never heard of or have any experience of.
I just wanted a better understanding
Thank you

I had a late loss and the nhs provided a little funeral service - white casket with her name on , a church service in their chapel at the crematorium. It wasn't private and any parent in the same boat in that month attended . Ithere were maybe 6 of us . ? It was nice to be able to say goodbye and take a flower etc x

I haven’t heard of it and it never would have occurred to me when this happened to me at 12 weeks.
However, everyone is different and if it’s what the family wants then fair enough. I wouldn’t attend though

People grieve in different ways. If that's what your friend wants to do, it would be nice to support her in her decision.
I personally haven't heard of it before and I grieved in more of a private way after my miscarriages but there is no right or wrong way.

It's not complicated surely - if you're invited just attend and support your friend?

Yeah its not complicated, don't think I said it was I was simply asking if it was a common thing as I've never heard of it and it seems other posters hadn't either.

Yes I will support my friend I just wanted a bit of understanding of if its a shared service.
But thank you for your extremely kindly worded reply.

I lost my baby last week at 12 weeks, we were asked at the hospital about funeral arrangements and there was a form with different options to tick so it definitely is a thing.

We opted for making our own arrangements with just DH and our vicar at home, but I can understand wanting to have loved ones there for support too.

Thank you

I had one for my 13 week miscarriage. It was a shared service and they had a little white coffin the size of a shoebox with the month and year engraved on a little metal plaque on it. The chaplain from the hospital did it with a member of staff from the crematorium. There were 3 sets of parents at ours although the chaplain said that sometimes there are no parents and sometimes there are a few, it really varies.

Yes I believe so. I was told prior to my surgical management at 11 weeks that there would be a service at the crem and someone would be in touch. Nobody called me though and I didn’t follow it up tbh. I thought about calling but my thought was perhaps there was nothing much left there after the procedure. I didn’t want to hear someone tell me that. I just did my own thing at home to help me say goodbye

@elliejjtiny now I’m worrying I missed something I should have gone to