Missed miscarriage advice needed!

[Charlotte88x]

This week I went for a early private pregnancy scan at 10 weeks to find out there was no heart beat! Me and my partner were so shocked and devastated! The last couple of days have consisted of me crying, forgetting, feeling angry and guilt, shame and loneliness! I’m guessing this is all normal to go through these emotions but I never through this would happen to me! I now have to wait for 2 weeks to have the procedure to remove the baby but it might happen naturally in the mean time which I am terrified of! I just want this to be over!
I suppose I’m writing this as it gives me comfort that other people have gone through this and I want to see if any one else has managed to have a full term healthy pregnancy after as I am scared that this won’t happen for me!

I had a MMC last year, heartbeat stopped at around 9 weeks, I had medical management a week later.

Currently sat feeding nearly 4month old DD.

Be kind to yourself and make sure your emotionally ready to try again, I tried straight away and the pregnancy was so stressful and scary, I never imagined myself leaving hospital with a baby.

Just sending love to you too because it's an awful thing to go through, I cried for about 2 weeks afterwards ♥️♥️

Hello, just seen this and didn't want to read and run!

In March I had a similar experience in that I had this outcome at my 12 week scan and they told me baby had stopped growing around the 9 week mark.

I didn't know what to do initially because like you I was just in such shock I wanted to go home and cry by myself so I didn't opt for any management there and then.

A few days letter I was having on and off cramping but not much was happening so I tried to opt for surgical management via EPU. I couldn't get hold of anyone for a few days and then on the Saturday I woke up early in the morning with strong pains and started flooding pads. I had gone through more than 3 in an hour so went to a&e (as per guidance) and ended up just bleeding all over the waiting room. After a few hours there I was reviewed and seemed off passed a lot, the bleeding had lessened so I went home.

If I had this experience again, I wouldn't of gone to a&e I think I would of sat on the toilet for a few hours and just dealt with it at home. There will be a lot of blood unfortunately but you'll be okay. Of course if it continues so heavily then you should go in.

My top tips would be:

• have strong painkillers ready should you need them (codeine or similar)
• hot water bottle ready
• buy maternity pads for when it starts
• take gentle exercise and fresh air while waiting for things to happen.

Hopefully your op will come around before you need to worry about this but just in case...

I had a healthy baby before this experience and I am 6 weeks pregnant now. I know plenty of others who have gone on to have successful pregnancies too so hopefully you will as well

I'm so sorry OP.

I had a MMC, discovered at 11 weeks and had to wait a week for D&C. Procedure itself was fine and mentally was very low for a week or two but then started plotting when I would next TTC.

Within 3 months I was pregnant again and this time all was well although I did discover I was prone to 'sticky' blood so was on heparin for the successful pregnancy.

Oh OP I’m so so sorry. It’s an awful thing to happen. My first pg ended up like this. We went to the 12 week scan and no heartbeat. I was devastated. I felt shame and guilt and deep deep sadness. Anger. Like the bottom had fallen out of the world.
You’re grieving. You need to be gentle with yourself.
I now have two children. Eldest is 18 but I will never forget how I felt.

Thank you all for sharing your stories it really does give me comfort xxx

I remember a colleague at the time (who I knew had kids) writing a card to wish me well. She added it had happened to her too. And said if I ever needed to talk she was there. That meant the world. I had never heard of mmc. And I wouldn’t wish it on anyone but it was comforting to know I wasn’t the only person it’d happened to (if that makes sense?)

Hello, I had exactly the same thing a few years ago. Had a scan at 12 weeks and I saw a big empty womb on the screen. They estimated baby had passed at 5 weeks but the placenta had kept growing. I too had to wait for two weeks and in that time I did everything I could to try and get things to happen naturally (I didn’t fancy a hospital admission and also I hated having to wait for two weeks!) so after doing a big 12 mile hike things happened for me the next day.

I then had one cycle in between and the cycle after that I conceived my daughter. She’s now two and the light of my world.

Im now 12 weeks pregnant with another baby and have had a totally normal scan so looking good with this one too.

I promise it does get easier with time.

I had a loss at 7 or 8 weeks quite recently. Before that I had a v early MC just a few days after getting a positive.

Both times I tried really hard to remember that it was nothing I had done. It was never going to be a baby and that sadly pregnancy never guarantees a baby and until he or she are there in your arms it is one day at a time.

In my successful pregnancies (two) I have perhaps not bonded so much with the babies, didn't want to find out genders, start buying things early, etc. It sounds horrible but I just didn't want to think of the pregnancy as a baby until quite far along, to try and save myself grief if the worst happened. Had already had a loss by then.
Best feeling in the world when they arrived and were there in my arms. I hope it happens for you too, no reason why it shouldn't.

Take pain killers before the pain gets very bad. But it may not be too bad, it wasn't for me anything more than period pain. Don't look at what is in the tissues etc. You may pass while on the toilet. Please don't look. And remember it is nothing you have done wrong, it's just one of those shitty things. I bled for a couple of weeks.