Dealing with pregnancy announcements

[ChinChilly]

I had an MVA on Monday after our routine 12 week scan showed baby had stopped growing at 8+4, this was my third MC, today 3 days later a family member announced they were expecting a baby around the same time I would of been due. I feel absolutely crushed & I can't even bring myself to be happy for them. How do I stop these feelings from eating me up? I feel like a horrible person but i can't even overcome my own feelings to even say congratulations. Luckily the announcement was over a whatsapp message, if it was face to face I think I actually would of dropped to the ground.

I really feel for you and also find myself after 5 miscarriages surrounded by others joyful announcements. I feels really shit, I think because you are so happy for them but also crushed for yourself and then beat yourself up feeling guilty for being jealous. Its like everyone else has a ticket to the party except you. Sadly I've removed myself from friendships because they have become so upsetting/ baby focused for me. People say the most stupid stuff, best drown it out for a bit in anyway that works for you. I've found it's helped to do things that make me happy in my current child free life.

But you're not alone, there are lots of people in the same situation but it feels very lonely I know. I've had friends who have had miscarriages who have now all gone onto have children. That's why I've found myself here so you know it's not just you!

Take care of yourself x