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How do you be kind to yourself and stay positive?

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PinkFizz19 · 07/07/2021 12:39

We're sadly on our third recurrent miscarriage TTC1. First was natural at 6 weeks, second and third have been MMCs with the baby stopping growing at 7+ weeks, resulting in me having 2 MVAs.

Third pregnancy took us a while to conceive and with me being 35 our GP agreed to refer us for testing. They did bloods and my consultant told me they "were a bit up and down" but he didn't class me at the time as a recurring miscarrier and there was no further dicsussion Hmm After my HyCoSy he confirmed that I had a low egg reserve and put me on the IVF waiting list. That month we then ironically conceived naturally but sadly it wasn't meant to be.

We've been referred back for IVF in the hope that we may stand a better chance of things progressing if we are lucky enough to get pregnant due to the egg selection.

What I'm asking is how does anyone who is sadly going through or has gone through similar things to this, stay positive (I'm really struggling at the minute) and what do you do/how do you be kind to yourself?

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MsK89 · 07/07/2021 14:01

So sorry to hear everything you have been through. My 4th miscarriage started yesterday (2 chemicals & 2 MMC) and it is a real journey of emotions.

Some days I feel like ‘it WILL happen’ and remind myself of all the good things I have and I can feel positive. Whereas other days I just cry and feel so jealous of people with kids. My next door neighbour is currently 4 months pregnant, and I have to walk past her hanging outside her front door with a fag in her mouth. Many occasions I just want to punch her 🙊

PinkFizz19 · 08/07/2021 10:53

@MsK89 Thank you so much for your reply and I'm so sorry to hear you are going through all this at the minute SadFlowers

Ohh I totally understand that, it's so frustrating. I have days when I'm positive and see us achieving our dream of having a family but then other times I beat myself up about it being my fault and wish I had a crystal ball xxxx

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MsK89 · 08/07/2021 11:22

I am 32 soon, my gynaecologist said they don’t worry these days until women are 38+ so we both still have a few years yet ❤️

Please never think it’s your fault, it isn’t xxx

PinkFizz19 · 12/07/2021 15:45

@MsK89 Thank you so much. That's so kind Flowers

I really hope so. As soon as I turned 35 I started to worry that things weren't going to be as straight forward xxx

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