Miscarriage at 7 Weeks

[graciepoo]

Hello,

My husband and I have been trying to conceive for two years. After one year, we started testing ovulation as I am a bit irregular.

We had all but given up and asked to be referred to a fertility specialist. Then I felt strange and took a test and found out I was pregnant!

That was 12 days ago. I had some spotting yesterday so I rushed to the emergency room and after doing some tests, they said my HCG dropped from 993 to 885 and that I was miscarrying.

I decided to go home and miscarry naturally. I’m devastated.

I keep asking myself: what did I do to deserve this? Will I be pregnant again? Will I miscarry again? What if I can’t have kids?

I feel cursed and sometimes wonder what I am even doing here.

Hey, I’m so sorry you are going through this. There’s nothing you’ve done to deserve this at all. Be kind to yourself, its such a hard thing to have to deal with.

I am in a similar situation, trying for 2 years, just gone through first round of IVF and now having a miscarriage at nearly 8 weeks. I was devestated last week when I found out at our scan. Now I just want to get it over with and try to move on.

I can’t say anything to make you feel better but I completely understand how you are feeling.

Thanks for the kind words. I keep blaming myself and stressing out about the future.

It's not your fault @graciepoo sorry you are going through this. Infertility and pregnancy loss is brutal. Please go easy on yourself

OP there is nothing you have done wrong, sometimes shit just happens, no reason. It does feel awful and we always want to know why, but often there’s just no real answer. I’ve had two 8-9 week miscarriages now after IVF last autumn, so I’m another one who understands how you feel. Be kind to yourself as your hormones will be all over the place right now, but your body just proved it can get pregnant naturally which is an amazing thing! If it can do it once it should be able to do it again - do you still have a referral to a specialist?

@Sunbird24 My doctor is beginning the referral process again as we had decided to halt it as we became pregnant naturally one day after we were asked to to be referred. So heartbreaking.

I am so sorry for what you are going through. I was in a similar position myself. I had been trying for 3 years and finally fell pregnant. I miscarried a week later and it just felt so cruel after everything we had been through. I picked myself up and decided not to give up and fell pregnant with my son a few months later. The doctors had told me to try and be positive and that the fact that I was able to fall pregnant naturally was a good sign. Take your time to grieve and take care of yourself xx