Does this make me a terrible person *TW*

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I found out that my baby had stopped growing when I was 10 weeks pregnant. A few days later I'v passed the sac, which was complete. I flushed it down the toilet because it didn't feel right to disturb it. I will be planting something in memory of our baby but I feel terrible that I didn't get it out to bury it (even though that also doesn't feel like the right option for us). Has anyone else experienced these feelings of guilt for what they did/didn't do with their baby?

I've just done exactly the same thing at 8 weeks pregnant but the thought of actually getting it out the toilet would terrify me. It's best left undisturbed and the less you see the better. But I know how you feel as I can't stop thinking about it since.

I haven’t been in your position, but I am so sorry for what you’ve been through. But from that perspective: please, please don’t beat yourself up about this. Whatever made you feel better at the time was the right thing to do. Everyone copes with things differently- and each person’s way is right for them. There are no rights or wrongs here....

I am in hospital having a miscarriage at the moment which is a different experience as I’m being given all kinds of forms to sign for them to dispose of the remains, but my last one in Nov was at home and exactly the same happened. I felt exactly as you do but then I thought what else would I have done. I didn’t want to bury it in the garden, I would have been worried about it being disturbed or when I moved house. I think planting something in memory is a really lovely thing to do. Please don’t worry, I think you did exactly the right thing and all you could do in the circumstances. I’m so sorry for your loss