3 Pregnancy losses. Any hope?

[HJB97]

Hi everyone, I am new to mumsnet. Let me tell you about myself, I am 24yo and I have been with my long term partner for 11 years. We started TTC in January 2020. We conceived in May 2020 but had a chemical pregnancy/ Early miscarriage at 4+2. We then conceived again in August 2020 but had a missed miscarriage at 14 weeks in November 2020 and I needed a D&C.
We conceived again April 2021 but had a miscarriage at 5+1. After 3 losses I am totally lost and wondering is there any hope for me? Where do I go from here? My GP keeps telling me I’m young and I’ll be ok but I feel defeated. I have had investigations in the past for Gynae related issues however blood tests and a laparoscopy concluded no issues apart from a small cyst on my right ovary. I would be so grateful for any advice or success stories after recurrent miscarriages.

I think you should press your GP for a referral. Could you possibly go private if they won't?
So sorry for your losses.

I’m so sorry for your loss, too. I have a 2 year old son but we’ve been TTC since Feb 2020 and I’ve had 4xMCs in 13 months, I’ve no idea what has happened to my body. Recurrent miscarriage is horrible and there is never any explanation, we just keep being told to keep trying. I lost my latest pregnancy yesterday but still trying to keep positive and hope it will happen soon as I’ll be 38 in November and my DH is 41.

It is heartbreaking to go through a miscarriage, let alone 3. I am so sorry.

To answer your question, yes. I have had 6 miscarriages and 3 children. It doesn't matter about your age, your GP should refer you to a recurrent miscarriage clinic or, at the very least, a fertility specialist. Please please do insist they do that, however much they try and fob you off.

You may find there is something relatively simple that can be dealt with by treatment or by something you take or do when you get pregnant again.

I had 5 years of infertility before I even had my first miscarriage and it was just so upsetting and so hard to keep going. I was diagnosed with unexpected infertility which is ridiculously frustrating! Lots of my blood test were just on the edge of OK and that definitely didn't help.

There is a great book that helps you understand your own body and cycle - Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler. That might help you get some idea what's going on or at least to understand the sorts of tests you might need.

It wasn't until I had 4 miscarriages that I got a different panel of tests. That identified a couple of potential issues including low progesterone which I had said was an issue but wasn't listened to. There was also a blood clotting problem. My next pregnancy then saw me use progesterone pessaries, take aspirin and inject blood thinners. It was successful.

I am so sorry you are going through this and I hope you get referred to someone who is more sympathetic and proactive in finding out what is going on.

I wish you the best of luck.

Def you can get referee to the recurrent miscarriage clinic after 3 losses, so please push. I've had 2 (one missed & one natural) and I'm so scared of having another but I know a few ladies who have had more & children so I have to keep hope. Please keep faith & pushing xx

Thankyou so much for your support everyone. I spoke with my GP and I’ve been referred to a specialist for recurrent miscarriages. I just have to wait for the appointment to come through now. ❤️

Hello, sorry to hear about your losses. In a similar situation, 2 losses. Just had my first period after my last loss and ready to try again. But I want to speak to my GP for support. I know they say 3 losses before referral but I want to ask about progesterone and baby Asprin. Done some research and read stories on hear which alot have been positive. Also worried about thyroid. I have a few slight symptoms. my auntie was never able to have children suffered many MC and recently been diagnosed with thyroid problem. If I request to see my GP in terms of a 3rd pregnancy what should I be asking for support in my next pregnancy so it doesn't go wrong again.
(a nurse told me in hospital just to not drink and do drugs) which I don't do and was very hurt by this. I just don't think I'd survive another loss, they really are the hardest things to go through. It's been a tough 3 months. You are all wonderful and strong.
Thanks in advance, any advice is welcomed :)

@Spotsmama I'm in the same situation as you. Just had my second loss but still bleeding from the surgical management last week.

I'm wanting to ask my GP about aspirin and progesterone too but feel like I'll just be brushed off. I think I might take baby aspirin anyway because I had a DVT earlier this year and I just have a feeling that I might have a blood clotting issue.

I think I'm going to message my GP online tomorrow so I'll let you know what they say to me x

@nacarlos89
Sorry to hear that. What is DVT? How do you know of you have a clotting ssue? Would be great to hear how you got on. I also feel ill be brushed off. Being told it just happens, it's nature from nurses in hospital really has knocked my confidence in asking for support.
Hope you have a positive experience. X

@Spotsmama Deep Vein Thrombosis which is a blood clot in the leg. It was caused by a mix of surgery and being on the pill. So me and some of the doctors think that the hormones produced when I'm pregnant may be thickening my blood. Yet they still won't do the test until I've gone through another miscarriage. It's so frustrating.

Yeah I will let you know how I get on although I'm not expecting much. I think I'll just try taking baby aspirin after a BFP next time round as I've heard it helps with some people. I can't see them prescribing progesterone though.

Hope you get some better news soon!

Oh that's interesting. My mum has tjat and I have had one huge ugly vein on my thigh for years. The midwife asked about it on my booking in and just said to keep an eye on it and look out for changes.
Thank you, keep in touch :)
Maybe I should read a little into that more and the Asprin.