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Missed miscarriage and I'm so lost how can I feel better

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SomeoneSomewhere1219 · 26/05/2021 21:27

Last week I went into hospital to have my missed miscarriage removed. It took four weeks to finally get the outcome. I knew it wasn't ok but was still pregnant and still had symptoms . I now feel so sad, my mood goes up and down. I have a beautiful two year old that I'm clinging too, I miss her when she's in bed and hate that she goes to nursery. I think it's grief, I know and have accepted that it wasn't meant to be but I'm really hurting.

I don't know the point to this post, I hate that I'm still bleeding. I would like to hibernate for a few weeks. How can I feel better?

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Doodledeedum · 27/05/2021 17:38

I'm so sorry for your loss DaffodilI'm home recovering from a MMC and it's truly awful. The grief is coming in waves. I'm journaling, having baths, eating, crying and spoken to a therapist- which has helped. Taking each day as it come x

SomeoneSomewhere1219 · 28/05/2021 07:54

@Doodledeedum I'm sorry you are experiencing this too. I'm going look into speaking to a therapist too.

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Chanel05 · 30/05/2021 10:41

Really sorry for your loss. I had therapy after my mmc. I was very depressed until I conceived again in all honesty.

doodledeedum · 02/06/2021 11:11

How are you doing @SomeoneSomewhere1219

SomeoneSomewhere1219 · 06/06/2021 21:14

@Doodledeedum I'm doing ok, much better. I still feel sad and a little lost but the tormented feeling isn't so strong now. Perhaps it's because the hormones have gone.

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SomeoneSomewhere1219 · 06/06/2021 21:15

@Doodledeedum How are you doing?

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doodledeedum · 06/06/2021 22:04

@SomeoneSomewhere1219

I'm finally beginning to come
To terms with it all. I can think about it now and not cry, only two therapy sessions in and it's already helped so much. I'm really glad I told those that I felt could support me if something went wrong before the 12 week mark because everybody has been so supportive.
I'm back to work tomorrow so feel a bit anxious about that but I feel ...'hopeful' ?? Basically I don't feel so hopeless at the mo. I know it will
come and go but it's coming much less and more manageable.
Taking time off work was literally the best thing I could have done. Immerse myself in the grief and just let go,
Had I gone to work and kept busy- I think I'd be falling apart now.

I also think my hormones are ebbing, I've been testing and I'm finally at a faint mark ( blows my mind I'm looking for a negative result in the tests!! 😞)

SomeoneSomewhere1219 · 10/06/2021 08:28

@Doodledeedum I'm pleased it's more manageable. That's how I feel, I can also talk about it without crying now. I'm glad the therapy sessions have been a positive and time off work.

I guess as time goes on it will feel less raw too. Glad you're doing ok x

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