MMC - 2 within 6 months

[DotyHope]

Hi,

I wanted to created a post to see if anyone out there has had a similar experience to me, and has came out the other side with a positive outcome.

I’m 29- and I am desperate to start my family.

We decided to start TTC Oct '20 and I was thrilled to find out I was pregnant in Nov '20. I had very minimal symptoms and overall felt great- I genuinely thought I was so lucky. Flash forward to my privately booked 9 week scan, where I was told that my pregnancy had stopped at 6 wks 4 days, and I would need to visit my EPU for confirmation of the loss.

Anyone who has been through this before will know how daunting and drawn out the MMC process is, I choose the natural route and it’s safe to say Christmas '20 was one of the worst times in mine, my partners, and our parents life.

I tricked myself into believing I had moved on and ready to ttc immediately after my first first period, and when this led to a negative test all my grief and heavy emotions came FLOODING back to me, it was as though the miscarriage was happening to me again. I know now, I had put far too much pressure on myself.

March came, and we were successful! I was thrilled, terrified, happy, cautious and felt a feeling of doom! But I had much stronger symptom’s’ this time, the nausea was real, and the naps were essential… both my own mother & partners mother were delighted I had these symptom’s because this meant everything was going ok with the baby.

Then, about 4 weeks ago now I found blood when I wiped and went straight out to my EPU- I should of been 8 wks & 5days, yet here we go again I was measuring 6 wks and 6 days- repeat visit the following week to confirm the loss.

This time I went ahead and opted for ERPC, which for me I felt was traumatising due to the wait in the hospital the cramps from the tablet they gave me, and the further pain I felt afterwards.

I ended back in hospital as the pain was not stopping, to be told that they didn’t ‘‘go as hard because you’re young, so there will be still products left over that will pass naturally’’. I was scanned then, and to top off my terrific time at the hospital I was informed of a Dermoid Cyst on my right ovary, and I was told to remember the name because it was likely to cause me issues in the future and I was sent on my merry way.

I know now that I should of campaigned for myself more, I should of asked more questions but I was in so much mental and physical pain that I just couldn’t do that.

I now have a referral for a Bereavement Midwife to take both mine and my partners’ bloods to check for any issues or causes of these recurrent miscarriages, an appointment with my doctor with a list of bloods I want taken and a list of aliments that I think may have been having a knock on effect to my hormones, and an appointment with a highly recommended Gynaecologist to check this Dermoid Cyst…

If anyone out there has any positive similar stories I would really love to hear them, I feel like I’m making steps in the right direction but my heart is irrevocably broken.

Hi OP, no positive story as yet but I had a mmc last December, should have been 11 weeks but was only measuring 5/6 maximum, that happened naturally around 12 weeks. Second mmc was April, went for a private reassurance scan at 8+1 baby was measuring 8 weeks but no heartbeat. Went for erpc that time and we're on our first cycle trying again. I know it doesn't help but at least you've got tests lined up in which you might find some answers. I got waved on my merry way and told they'd do more if it happens again 🙄 I've already got a 19 month old and the pregnancy was completely straightforward so I'm praying it's been pure bad luck. Keeping my fingers crossed that it's third time lucky!

@DotyHope so sorry for your losses. I've been in a similar situation (minus the cyst issue) as my first two pregnancies ended in missed miscarriages. I wasn't offered any testing because where I am, you need 3 consecutive miscarriages to qualify for tests. I did have my hormone levels checked and some scans but all came back normal. I hope it gives you some hope the hear that my third pregnancy was successful. The only thing I did differently was take baby aspirin (i'd read it can help in cases of recurrent miscarriage). For many years I thought it had made the difference but my fourth pregnancy also ended in a missed miscarriage despite taking the aspirin so now I'm not so sure. I did have another successful pregnancy after my third miscarriage (my fifth pregnancy) and also took baby aspirin for that pregnancy. The consultant I saw said she believes my miscarriages were just ‘bad luck, it gave me no comfort to hear that at the time but I suppose bad luck is preferable to there being something physically wrong. I hope you have a positive outcome in the near future but in the meantime take care of yourself.