Hi all,
Ive jus miscarried my first pregnancy at 9 weeks and was hoping for some words of wisdom or to talk to others who have been through it.
It took us a little while to get pregnant and me and my partner were both so excited when we found out. I had my first early pregnancy scan on Saturday and was told the baby had a strong heartbeat and everything looked good. Then within hours I started bleeding. I was told by multiple healthcare professionals it was just normal but on the Monday as the blood started to get heavier I was finally referred to the EPU after repeatedly inquiring with my midwife service.
On the Tuesday morning (which happened to be my birthday) I had another scan where I saw the heartbeat and was told everything was fine. Then that evening I ended up in a&e with heavy bleeding and excruciating pain and after a three hour wait where my partner was forced to stand outside the hospital I was told it was probably a miscarriage but the only way to tell was by another scan the next day.
When I went back to get my mc confirmed, my other half wasn’t allowed in the hospital again. The woman who scanned me took ages to tell me the baby was gone. When I was dressed she barely said a word to me and then I was ushered into a back room away from the other people in the waiting room and told to wait for a nurse. Eventually the nurse came and handed me a leaflet and sent me on my way, no one explained anything or really offered me any comfort. I spoke to my gp the next day and she was equally dismissive, almost sounding bored on the phone.
I know it is common but I’ve been left feeling confused and in the dark, desperate for answers. I’m really struggling with it both mentally and physically and I don’t understand why all the healthcare professionals have been so cold. It’s common but it was still our baby, and the future we were so looking forward to has crumbled in front of us.
Does any have any tips for getting over a mc? Or has had similar experiences?
Thank you in advance xx