Missed Miscarriage treatment advice

[Bouncytree]

Hi everyone

I’ve just been advised I have had a missed miscarriage. I will return for a second scan next week and will be offered treatment options. I’m just wondering if anyone has Any advice/experiences on which treatment to go for?

It’s my 3rd MC but first missed one. My last was 11 weeks and I found the physical process very traumatic, even though I didn’t have any pain. Just experiencing the bleeding and placenta coming out. I Think I had ptsd afterwards as I kept imagining it Would come out again, even though i knew it was gone. At the same time surgery seems daunting, I’m worried about risks in relation to future fertility, and worried I might feel detached from it, like the MC didn’t happen. I’m Not sure if I will be offered a choice but I want to be prepared.

It would be great to hear advice snd experiences. I’m currently 9 weeks and embryo measuring 8 weeks. My body still thinks it’s pregnant and no sign of things starting here.

I had a MMC in December at the same gestation as you.
I'll be as honest as possible as I found that alot of the websites and stuff you read made it sound worse?! And for me the fear of it was probably worse and more traumatic that the actual miscarriage.
I was given the first tablet to swallow after the scan as I knew I just wanted to get on with it and not wait for it to happen naturally. I started bleeding very slightly and cramping the next day but still took the pessesarys (sp?) the day after which was scary as I knew it would kick everything off. You have to lie down after and let them work and you start to get intense cramps, take the pain meds! And after a few hours I passed something that felt quite big, I could see in the toilet the sack. When I had a miscarriage before I did look at it but this time I felt like I didn't want to so whatever suits you. After this it was usual bleeding like a heavy period but with clots which wasn't pleasant and always on edge that it was going OK but all in all that was the end of it really.
I'm so sorry you're facing this too and really hope that you have some support and get some rest.
I also hope it's not insensitive to add that this was in December and I'm pregnant again with my 20 week scan coming up so it's always possible that it's just around the corner.
All the best xxx

I had surgery for my second mmc 5 weeks since tomorrow. I was also 8 weeks. For me I didn't want to see anything, out of sight, out of mind. The bleeding after was minimal and I've just had my first period since which has been normal for me. The first time I was booked for surgery but it happened naturally the day before. It wasn't completely horrendous but I was only around 6 weeks, meant to be 11, so there wasn't as much there without sounding awful.

I had surgery at 12 weeks. Emotionally, loss was so hard (still is). Physicwlly, great and v straightforward. In terms of research evidence- the options have an equal infection risk(low for all) and surgical under GA has the highest patient satisfaction (or as satisfied as someone could ever be in this situation)

Thanks @mamamalt @TheDaydreamBelievers and @GoodVibesOnlyPlease for sharing your experiences so honestly. It really helps to hear what to expect. Currently in limbo just waiting for next scan and looking forward to just getting it over with now, I just feel like I can’t move on. Leaning towards the surgery option if it’s given, just worried about any risk of damage to the uterus, but I read it’s 1 on 1000. Just a scary thought when you are TTC. Congratulations @mamamalt I’m really glad for you. It’s lovely to hear a success story. It’s my third MC and I’m now 42, so I think ivf is our next step, I can’t face another MC and don’t want to run out of time.

Thanks again for sharing your experiences

@Bouncytree I don't have anything to say other that wish you luck for your next scan, I hope you get a positive outcome. I'm currently in limbo too waiting for my next scan which will tell me my next steps. I think I'll opt for surgery.

Sending you lots of love and hope for positive news

I’m very sorry for your loss.

I had a D&C with my MMC, For me I didn’t want to see anything and I wanted the physical process done with so I could concentrate on grieving.

The surgery was straight forward, pain wise it wasn’t bad, not much bleeding after.

Regarding anything happening to fertility, all my pregnancies were through IVF.
MMC, CP and now I have my DS. I think the risks are quite low.

Good luck for whatever you choose

@bouncytree I remember you from a TTC thread! I'm so sorry it hasn't worked out for you. If you have the surgical approach may they be able to do some investigations into why you miscarried as it's the third you've suffered?
I hope you can access IVF on the NHS and that it works out for you. So many little miracles come about that way although I know it won't be an easy ride on top of what you are going through now so I hope you have lots of support and seek help if you need it.