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Missed Miscarriage

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BE2BN2BE · 07/05/2021 20:14

Long story short found out last week I had had a ‘missed miscarriage’ (never even heard of it before), 11 weeks gone but only a sac no baby at scan. Started Medical intervention today. Inserted pills at 11am and after some intense pain and passing some clots it’s massively slowed down. My husband had to go and look after his disabled brother at 6pm as their Dad has fucked off with his fancy woman. I was in a lot of pain then, laying on the bed with a hot water bottle essentially sobbing into the duvet. I didn’t want him to cancel on his brother as it’s not fair on him. But now I’m home alone, miscarrying what would have been our child and I feel so worthless and alone. I feel like I’m no ones priority. None of my family or friends have checked in on me despite knowing what’s going on. I’m sorry for the pity party, I know it’s probably the hormones but I just feel so sad and awful.

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Sprite999 · 07/05/2021 20:21

I'm so sorry for your loss Flowers. It's such a hard thing to go through. I hope your husband can come home soon? You really need support both mentally and physically through it. My DP and I just watched lots of netflix all day and evening to take my mind off it all. Do you have ibuprofen, paracetamol and codeine? I cycled all 3 of them which helped a lot I think. So sorry to hear your friends and family haven't got in touch, it might be that they don't want to intrude or don't know what to say? Can you contact anyone to come round till your DH gets back?

Sprite999 · 07/05/2021 20:22

I mean we watched Netflix to take my mind off the pain and physical side of things, obviously nothing can really take your mind off the loss side Sad.

Astronaut8 · 07/05/2021 20:31

I am very sorry for your loss.
I hope your husband will be home soon, his dad should have stayed with the brother! But it’s done now, concentrate on you.
Your friends and family more than likely won’t want to bombard you during this horrendous time. When it happened to me they got in touch after a couple of days.
Would you feel more comfortable having a family member or friend round? Ring them.
Take care Daffodil

MsK89 · 08/05/2021 13:48

Hey @BE2BN2BE so sorry for how you are feeling. I have been through 3 miscarriages now (had my tablets for most recent one yesterday) the first time it happened to me, all my friends and family were so sympathetic but now it’s the 3rd time, a lot of them just didn’t even message despite knowing.
It can be hard to deal with, but don’t take it personally, it could just be they don’t know what to say.
I found joining the miscarriage association Facebook page helped as it was full of stories of others going through the same thing. Hope you have more support today. Take care x

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