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Fetal remains - home cremation?

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Kiflon · 04/05/2021 18:08

Hi everyone. I have just had my second missed miscarriage, and am thinking of what to do, contemplating a home cremation. Both times the foetus stopped just around 8w and I passed the POC at 10w with medical management.

Last time, I had a totally vanishing foetus after it’s 6 week scan debut, so I didn’t do anything special with the empty sac. However, this time I passed a tiny sac with a little bean and I want to do something special to say goodbye. The tissue is at the lab but I should get remains back soon.
Has anyone done a home cremation? It’s such a tiny amount of tissue, but I would like to be able to scatter ashes alongside one of my relatives. Alternatively if that’s too difficult will probably choose a special planter.
Has anyone managed a tiny, home cremation?

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babydommy · 04/05/2021 19:11

I didn't manage a cremation but the remains came back in a sealed laboratory bottle which I then cemented fully (it was pretty much a tomb) into a plant pot which I now have fake flowers in and is kept outside xx

Kiflon · 04/05/2021 19:33

Thank you. You don’t have the worry about ‘what if the plant dies’. My second choice is to plant something fairly hardy, but I’ll just have to accept it if the plant has problems later. I’m a real hippy and like the idea of returning to the earth, it’s just that we are already scattering a relative’s ashes this year so it would have been nice to put them together. It depends on whether the tissue has been treated with formalin or not. Do you know happen to know if your remains were treated?

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