Ttc following miscarriage

[emmainwales22]

Hi, I was wondering if anyone is in a similar situation and would like to keep in touch.
I suffered a miscarriage on Monday, at approx 11 weeks pregnant. I had a scan at 9w4d, heartbeat was visible and baby was measuring perfectly. Unfortunately, i had a heavy bleed at the weekend and a scan on monday showed no heartbeat and baby size of 9w6d, so it seems it happened 2 days after the 1st scan. I had an erpc on tuesday and still bleeding, although fairly lightly.
I have a beautiful 2 and a half year old daughter already and this is my first mc, but despite this I'm really struggling this week. I'm finding that focussing on ttc again is helping me to cope and was wondering if anyone else is currently in the same position?
If anyone had positive stories of getting pregnant again soon after a miscarriage that would also be really nice to hear xx

Hi, sorry sorry for your loss. It's really tough isn't it. I also have a DD 2.5! I had a loss in December and found it helpful to think about trying to conceive again. We started trying again straight away had one period in January and I'm now 14 weeks. I have been more stressed this time round as the loss is still so fresh but have had two scans now with a healthy baby so starting to relax.
Good luck with whatever you decide, there's no right or wrong decision. Just do what's best for you

So sorry to hear you're going through this @emmainwales22 I'm in the same position as you - found out last week baby was measuring 3 weeks behind, and a scan this week confirmed it. Had erpc on Thursday which despite being something I never want to go through again wasn't too bad.
I'm also desperate to begin TTC as soon as possible. I was told we could once I'd stopped bleeding, but they advise to have a period first for dating. I'm lucky enough to already have 2DC but we really want another baby, and losing this one has made me feel it even more strongly. I know several friends who have had miscarriages fell quickly afterwards so I'm hoping it will be the same for us

I'm really sorry for your loss, its heartbreaking. I had a MC at 10+4 at the very end of September last year. It took about a month to get a BFN afterwards and for my period to come back. Fell pregnant again early Jan in my third cycle post MC, which I was pleased about. Currently 18 weeks. Wishing you all the best and look after yourself over the coming weeks as it's such an emotional shock. I felt having a month where we couldnt TTC (due to awaiting the BFN) actually helped though very frustrating at the time.

Thank you for the positive tales of falling pregnant again soon afterwards, I'm finding them a huge help. Although also feel guilty at the prospect, as it will never be the same little one and still want to mourn my little one that could have been. I keep thinking about the 9 week scan we had and analysing the scan pictures to see if there were any clues that something was about to go wrong. He/she gave us a 'little wave' (the sonogrophers words when the little arm moved) and we watched the heartbeat going for ages. We were so happy, I think that made it worse really. Don't think I'd get an early reassurance scan next time, in case the same happened again. Xx

Can I join,

I had my sleeping baby at 16+1 weeks on Tuesday 27th April. Feeling guilty as I want to try again so soon, we struggled with fertility and our baby was 2.5ys in the making with 4 rounds of clomid.

@babybumpfor2021 I'm so sorry to hear that, especially after such a long road to getting pregnant, my heart goes out to you. Hope it happens for you again soon. Xxx

I lost my baby on 23 April at 17+6, was my first and I'm utterly desperate to conceive again. I'm still bleeding from the birth and have no idea when I can start trying again! Feeling all of your pain for your lost babies xxx

@emmainwales22 I feel your pain and I am so sorry you are going through this😞 we lost our IVF miracle at 10 weeks on 18th March...after we've seen great heartbeat twice... as you were, we were so happy... it just felt like a really cruel thing to happen😒 It's been 6 horrible weeks now and we are trying again ( though pregnancy test still faintly positive to add an insult to my heartache😣).
Anyway I wanted to share some positive vibes and my experience from TTC after MMC. in past, after suffering ectopic pregnancy I feel pregnant straight away and now have my 5 y old daugher. It does happen all the time and it will happen for you❤️

@Mypip1 sorry for your recent loss. I'm the opposite hardly any bleeding and almost stopped. I'm too want to try again, been advised to wait til after first period which can be 4-8 weeks? But also wait for the post-mortem results. These can take 3-4 months

@Doremifasol sorry to hear your struggle ttc and your loss. I too struggle to get pregnant, this was our first 2.5yrs in and 4 round of clomid 😔 xx

@babybumpfor21 is there any reason for you having to wait until post-mortem results? We were assured ours was a one of very rare condition (enlarged bladder and therefore no room for lungs to form) i think im just going to keep on at it regardless of the information given by our consultant, it is mainly because of dating issues, but who cares about that when i dont care when it comes i just want a baby! Ive taken various clearblue ovulation tests which are giving me mixed results! Please dont feel guilty, the urge to be a mother is so strong for those of us wanting it so much! Much love and strength to you xxx

@Mypip1 we don't know why baby died, at a 16 week rivals scan no heart beat and the midwives said baby was small, hardly any cord and a very big placenta. They advised to wait incase it's a genetic problem that could happen again. Thank you, it's so hard to come to terms with x