Anyone else in the TWW following a miscarriage?

[weathervane123]

Just wondering how you ladies are handling it?

We decided not to wait for my period because I tracked ovulation and can be confident it happened either yesterday (likely) or the day before. So today I guess I'm 1dpo.

I'm caught between being a terribly impatient/anxious person naturally, and just wanting to forget about it completely for at least the next 2 weeks plus or until AF shows up. Not sure how I'm going to manage the latter, but it's looking attractive. I wish the process happened faster!

Hi @weathervane123 I’ll be 1dpo tomorrow so a day behind you.

I feel exactly the same and would love to just be able to forget about it for the next 2 weeks.

On one hand I feel worried about getting a BFN and having to try again and also worried about getting a BFP and worrying about another MC. Going to try my best to just relax and organise as many enjoyable things as poss to keep my mind of it for the next 2 weeks.

🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

Hi both @weathervane123 @EmsTTC. So sorry for your recent losses. I have recently miscarried, too, and am hopeful that this was a one off. I was curious to know how long you both took to ovulate after your MC?

Hi @boxinell sorry to hear about your MC. I ovulated on CD16/17 this month 3 days later than usual. My MC was early though I was 5+3. I hope you’re doing ok post MC and fingers crossed your cycle gets back on track quickly 🤞🏻

Hi @EmsTTC and @boxinell. I'm sorry for everything you've been through. Bloody shit, isn't it? I'm glad for these forums though - I've learned so much from other women's stories.

@EmsTTC, we're pretty much DPO buddies! I'm convinced it hasn't worked this cycle and am thinking about using the downtime to work on my fitness. I also have a pretty busy time of it coming up with work, and am thinking that perhaps I should take a course online or something to take my mind off things. Am WFH, which means I don't have anywhere to be atm, and it leaves a little too much time for thinking and obsessing.

I don't know about you but I'm not looking forward to cramps this cycle, and the whole 'is it AF or implantation?" business. It seems so cruel that the signs for AF and pregnancy can be so similar!

@boxinell, I counted the first day of the bleed from my miscarriage as CD1. I ovulated on CD18, so around three days or so after I normally would, probably due to HCG in my system. I miscarried really early on though. Was 6+5 and mmc possibly at 5 weeks.

I hope you're well and that your cycle gets back to normal as soon as possible!

@weathervane123 it’s great to have a dpo buddy on here who’s in a similar situation.

I plan every week to work on my fitness 😂.....I actually do enjoy exercise and definitely feel it helps during times like these to help chill me out a bit.

It’s a bit of a nightmare still being in semi lockdown and TTC as it does give you loads more time to yourself to mull things over and overthink. I’m so used to being in lockdown as well that I forget I do have the option now of going out to eat and walking round the shops so I’m going to try do some more of that to keep me occupied for the next two weeks.

I think I’m quite lucky in that I don’t really get any symptoms of AF before it starts it usually just appears and then I start getting cramps, that’s what made me think I was pregnant before as I was getting cramps before my AF appeared. Must be a total nightmare for you though not knowing if you’re having normal AF symptoms or if it is pregnancy related.

What dpo did you find out you were pregnant last time? I tested at 9dpo and got BFN and then 11dpo and got a BFP. I’d like to try and not test as early this time but I’m not sure if I’ll actually manage that lol

Yeah, I'll be doing a little more eating out and browsing in shops too in the next few weeks. I've felt a bit overwhelmed by it, tbh. Lockdown has turned me into a hermit and the shops are a bit overstimulating!

My AF symptoms aren't too bad - mainly emo, sore boobs, and a bit crampy the first day, but it'd be nice if something obviously different happened as a sign of pregnancy. Like your pee turning bright purple or something!

Last time I had weird cramps for four days around the time my AF was due. I tested positive shortly after that, so around CD27, which was 14dpo. I had tested earlier but nothing, and even at 14dpo it was a squinter. Got 1-2 weeks on a Clearblue digital on 17dpo.

I think I implanted late, which I've since read can put you at higher risk of miscarriage. Either that or those cramps actually were my miscarriage, which I didn't pass, and I was getting positives off retained products. It was so early I think it's possible. I don't think my hcg ever got up that high given how quickly I got a negative after my miscarriage bleed. It was within a week.

I don't want to test early either. That rollercoaster is hard to control. The only thing that might convince me is strong symptoms like nausea, which I never get with AF. Part of me also thinks it would be advantageous to know if it was a chemical pregnancy, for my records and the support down the line from EPU.

I've actually had two chemical pregnancies before that I didn't tell the docs about. They were a long time ago and I didn't want to be pregnant so I just accepted them as slightly delayed periods. I didn't realise what it might mean when I was actually ttc. I'm hopeful I don't have a major issue because I once managed to get to 10 weeks, though I did ultimately terminate that pregnancy because I was so young. The EPU did agree to refer me to the recurrent miscarriage unit because I'm technically at 3, but I don't know if the referral has been accepted. Not sure if they all have to be in your medical records, and consecutive.

Sorry, super long post! All of this is so stressful to consider!

@weathervane123 totally understandable you’re feeling anxious with your previous history of CPs. I really hope your referral gets accepted by the recurrent MC clinic and they can run some tests and hopefully give you some peace of mind and some answers. Do you know how long you have to wait until you find out if you’ve been accepted?

I still haven’t let my GP know about mine which I probably should incase it happens again. I just managed it at home as luckily it was early and wasn’t too horrific and like you I got a negative pregnancy test within a few days so felt fairly confident my body had sorted it out. I got up to 2-3 weeks on a CB and then I think my HCG must have started to fall straight after that test so it was mostly gone before the heavy bleeding started.

I’ve had one previous pregnancy before my MC and my DS is now 2.5 years old. I naively barely even considered that something could go wrong that time (which thankfully it didn’t) but was much more worried about a potential MC this time around (I’m not sure why) and then it happened. Since looking into it and finding everyone’s stories on here I just can’t believe how common it is and how non existent the support is for early MC.

Anyway I hope you’ve managed to keep your mind off of it all a bit today. Almost another day closer to testing day lol 💪🏻

@EmsTTC I hope you're doing well today. 6dpo for me!

I'm not sure, but I think it takes around 6 weeks for the referral to come through. That's if they accept it, which they might not. I think it's probably a good idea to let your GP know if you haven't already, if only for your records. I got up to a 2-3 weeks with Clearblue as well. Not sure I'll want to use them again in the very early stages as they seriously freaked me out.

I was also worried about an MC from the beginning, but mostly because the pregnancy just didn't feel 'right.' It's hard to put my finger on it, but I wasn't getting positives until 14dpo and they they were really faint, and it just didn't feel 'sticky.' I had some symptoms but they just didn't feel convincing if that makes sense. Did you have strong symptoms last time? I've heard that it doesn't matter either way, unless you do have them and appear to lose them all at once very rapidly and they don't return.

I'll be trying not to symptom spot but today I have felt a bit of a dull ache in my uterus. It's probably nothing, but it's hard not to speculate!

Hi @weathervane123 I hope you’ve had a relaxing Sunday. We had some family around today in the garden and it didn’t rain which was a miracle.

I’ll definitely let the gp know about the MC just to make sure it’s recorded.

Yes I had strong symptoms last time. vv sore boobs from v early that continued and also v bloated, mood swings and cramps. Despite that I just didn’t feel right about it from the moment I saw the positive test. With my DS I did one test and just accepted I was going to have a baby, this time I did about 6 and still wasn’t convinced (even though they were getting darker and darker)....maybe you do get some kind of gut feeling something is off.

Not symptom spotting is so hard, specially seeing as the internet will pretty much tell you anything is an early pregnancy symptom lol. Not too long now tho before it’s a reasonable dpo to take a test.

Anyway, I’m keeping everything crossed for the both of us.

Hi @weathervane123 how are you getting on? Did you survive the dreaded TWW?

@EmsTTC I did, though only just! I'm pregnant again and 17dpo today (4+3 or 4+4, I think). Anxious as hell because I've been having cramps and my lines are progressing but slowly. Trying not to get my hopes up that this one will stick (and failing). Still low on symptoms, too.

How are you doing?

Congratulations @weathervane123 on getting another BFP. Those bloody lines drive me mad, I half wish you could only get tests that said pregnant or not pregnant so we could be blissfully unaware of what’s going on with HCG levels. I really hope it all goes well for you 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻 and those lines start giving you a bit more faith soon.

I got a BFP at 10dpo which got darker until 13dpo then didn’t progress. Yesterday was lighter and today looks even lighter, more like 10dpo. Definitely going to be a CP/MC for me again I can feel AF ramping up today for sure. Obviously miserable about it and wondering wth is going on for it to happen twice in a row but also feel a big sense of relief that the last few days of wondering what was going to happen are now over and I can move onto a new month.

This whole process is such a rollercoaster.

@EmsTTC oh no, I'm so sorry to hear that. It's a really cruel thing to happen and so depressing when those lines start going backwards. You never know though, until AF shows it's not over.

I had a meltdown the other day because I got lighter tests with fmu. Pessimistic as I've been about this pregnancy, I was genuinely expecting to see progression after testing the day before with diluted wee, and the FRER came up almost negative.

I tested again with SMU after having a cup of coffee and it was darker. A lot has to do with how much you're hydrating during the day, I think, and what your kidney function is up to.

I hope it works out for you, and if not then you get some answers. If you speak with your gp about the previous mc, they may be able to do some tests. Sending hugs xx