Everyone else is pregnant. Give me a kick, please.

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Two good friends and a colleague are due round about the same time my babies would have been born if I hadn't miscarried them. I feel utterly sick at how jealous I feel. Their having babies has no impact on my inability to do so, so why do I feel so wretched?

Give me a kick, please, and tell me to grow up and stop being so sorry for myself.

You have every right to feel how you do, give yourself a break.
I feel exactly the same as you at the moment and I am 3 months on from a MC.

So sorry for your loss. ❤️

I feel the same. My childhood best friend (no longer speak but have her on socials, just drifted apart) is due 5 days after I was and is excitedly posting pregnancy, baby stuff and her bump. Seems like everyone (influencers etc) all pregnant except me and I should be too!! 😩🙁

I'm so sorry for your loss OP, it's the worst thing . You definitely don't need a kick!

I feel exactly the same, I started ttc at the same time as my two closed friends and they have recently had their babies while I’ve had 2 mmc. My sister is also due any day, I feel surrounded. Even people I follow on social media, there are a few ladies that had mc that have no gone on to announce pregnancies and of course I’m happy for them but I can’t help but think why not me? Instead I’ve had another mc and it looks like AF is arriving so I’m out this month too.

Because it hurts. You don't need a kick but you need to be kind to yourself.
I had a stillborn son and I still years on can't cope with seeing newborn baby boys. I don't even want anymore children, but I just can't deal with it. Be gentle with yourself.

Of course these pregnancies are distressing for you.

Don't kick yourself.
Allow yourself to feel sad/jealous/wretched. Actually sit down by yourself and just feel it. Crazy as it may sound, setting aside a time to do this can be useful: at 7.30, I'll sit down for 20 mins, and allow myself to feel all the distress that I tried to suppress around other people. Sounds overwhelming? Here's the magic bit- if we allow ourselves to actually feel our feelings, they change and soften. At least for now, even if they recur every day. While we try to repress them, they remain unchanged.

Stop condemning and fighting yourself, because that just makes it worse. That's an additional weight that you just don't need, so lay it down.

You're in entirely understandable pain. You will not feel this way forever, but while you do, be kind to yourself.

I've been there OP. I think people can sometimes get so wrapped up in their own joy that they forget the impact it can have on others. I remember sobbing in a toilet at work after being swamped with tales of newborn babies by colleagues just a few weeks after I had miscarried. I have since gone on to have two children but I have not forgotten that feeling. Take care of yourself and don't beat yourself up for it because it's completely understandable and so tough.