Miscarriage bleeding and when to get help

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Hi, I'm looking for advice. Currently going through my first miscarriage at 9 weeks. I had a scan last week and the fetus was measuring small but with a heartbeat so was expecting the worst. I started with brown discharge on Tuesday which stopped overnight (and I stupidly got my hopes up) then red bleeding started yesterday afternoon so I knew for sure what was happening. It wasn't enough to fill a pad but there was more blood when I went to the toilet (sorry TMI). The cramps were quite painful during the evening, worse than my usual period pain, so I thought it was starting properly but I've no bleeding since.

When should I go back to the EPU for some kind of intervention? Is it normal for it to take so long to get going? I really don't want to have to go back to the hospital if I can avoid it, my DP wasn't allowed to come with me last week and I don't want to go through another scan alone when I already know the outcome. But I also want this to be over quickly so I can move on. I thought I was coping quite well but feel so so sad today :( xx

Hello sending you hugs xxx
I had my first misscarriage not long ago at 10 weeks however they said the embryo stopped at 8 weeks, I started too with brown spotting on and off for 3 days then the 4th day the process happend, It sounds like you are already going through the natural process, trust your gut instinct if you feel that it's not happening then ring up the doctor, I was told it takes about 2 weeks for the misscarriage to happen and that was about right for me when the embryo stopped growing and when I passed everything xxxxx please keep us updated it is a horrible experience and here to talk to you if you need to talk about it xxxx

Also please trust that it is better to give yourself time, don't rush anything xxxx I understand that you want to move on quickly, but it is kinder to yourself to give yourself some time and feel your feelings xxxx you have not done anything wrong xxxx and this not nice to go through, I didn't go to work for a week after I had mine and it gave me time to process xxxx

Thank you so much for your kind reply @twilight333 I'm so sorry you've been through this too. It really is such an horrible experience. How are you feeling about it now?
Even though I knew statistically miscarriage was quite likely and tried not to get too excited, I still didn't believe it would happen to us. I'm trying so hard to keep positive though. We hadn't been trying long and there's no reason to think this will happen again next time.
The bleeding has started up again, I think because I've been moving around so I'm trying to keep busy in the house. It feels like a normal period at the moment. Work had been amazing and are happy for me to take as much time as I need so it's nice not having to worry about that xx

Thats really good, yes we were the same as you first try and we caught but unfortunately didn't work out. I am "ok" now going through the process of emotions afterwards, and you do go through all sorts of emotions so be so patient and gentle with yourself, allow yourself to feel all the feelings this was not your choice or in your control so you have a right to feel the feelings. Ok yes sounds like things are moving more now, as you are having a natural misscarriage your body will take care of this, rest of you need to xx give it a week and if your still not 100% sure whether it's all happend then ring the doctors, thinking of you and sending you hug xx

I'm glad you're doing ok @twilight333 Are you planning try again straight away? I'm thinking of taking lose dose Aspirin next time, even though I don't know if I actually need it, I don't think it can do any harm. Maybe the GP will do some bloods if I ask nicely and know what I want.
I had really intense pain for a few hours yesterday evening but still not a lot bleeding and it's completely stopped again over night. It feels like this is dragging on for ages! Xxx

Xxxx ok if you feel you want the doctor to check on you ring them xxxx they have the tablets that can encourage the misscarriage to happen, or the operation- I haven't experienced these so I m not sure what it's like, xxxxx

I have done a lot of research about trying again straight away and spoke to people who have experienced this, the jist is that I read is the doctors may tell you to try again after your next period or straight away or even after 2 periods. My doctor said yes of course can try again straight away. Also they want you to start trying later on so that they can figure out the conception date easier. At the moment we are trying again but what happens once the misscarriage happens is that HCG levels stay in your system for a while I think it's approx 3 weeks, HCG is the hormone that flags on the preg tests that you are pregnant, and the LH level which is a test to see when you are ovulating can be affected by this so won't give a true result - this is what I read and watched on YouTube. I bought a test kit from amazon easy@home ovulation test kit it also comes with a lot of preg tests too. I have been obsessed testing myself every day and yesterday I had the faintest line on the preg test so means HCG is still in my system, a week after my misscarriage the ovulation test said I was ovulating but I don't know if I was because of HCG still in my system. I have been given advice by someone to forget testing enjoy life and be happy and then things will come, I misscarriaged on 7th March so will be 2 weeks this Sunday. Xxxxxxxx