Hopeless after seven months of trying again

[TTCbabytattie]

We had a blighted ovum miscarriage in April 2020. It was hell, followed by a secondary bleed in May :-( no follow up. Been TTC again since July/August but nothing is happening. I even started OPKs. I’m feeling so dejected. It took two months to conceive the lost little one. My son from a previous relationship took 9 months.

I hate being told not to stress and relax and it’ll happen. It’s so hard to keep getting AF every month. I want to give up but I don’t. Plus it’s coming up to the anniversary of when we lost the little one. I don’t know what to do. My cycles have been between 28-35 days since the miscarriage. They used to be 30 bang on.

I dunno why I’m writing this. I feel hopeless, lost, hurt.

Firstly it is completely okay and understandable to feel that way. Miscarriage is shit and is so hard. I agree the follow-up is completely pants too, physically and emotionally.

I'm not going to tell you to relax. I know from my own experience that people telling me that just makes me want to hit them in face and cry (not sure which first).

Just wanted to reassure you that 28-35 days are totally normal lengths for a cycle and that it's normal to TTC for up to a year. That doesnt mean anything is wrong with you or your partner.

I I completely empathise with you about the anniversary of the loss. If I'm not pregnant again by then I dont know how i will feel either. All I can do is say I FEEL YOU and I really hope you get a BFP soon ❤

It’s hard TTC when it doesn’t go to text book plan.

Relaxing does make a huge difference though, we was trying for a while with 3 miscarriages and I just gave up, didn’t care anymore, then guess what happened the very next month!!! I think stress does play a part but you never really know.

So easily said than done though

I want to give up at this point. Each month is a new heartbreak. I’ve talked to my partner and he’s happy to take a break or stop so I think we might have a break.

I also had a blighted ovum in April 2020 - got to 13 weeks (delayed 12 week scan) when we found out. Heartbreaking news!
It took us one month to fall pregnant that time, since then it has taken me a whole year to fall pregnant again
Even now only 5 weeks but fretting about whether it’s going to be the same as before.
Stress plays a big part of falling pregnant. I made the decision to give up trying and go on honeymoon with my husband, the month we returned we got a positive

Good Luck, think as positive as you can!!

I’d recommend acupuncture. It’s got a good proven track record with getting couples pregnant and keeping them that way to full term.

It’s £50 to £60 an appointment where I am. Many people swear by it.

Good luck when you start trying again