2 Miscarriages and trying again!

[Nicolala4]

Hi, I am looking for some positive stories, I'll tell you a little bit about my story, I found out I was pregnant with my first baby December 2020, very excited! I miscarried on Christmas eve at 4/5 weeks, spotted throughout.

I fell pregnant on my next cycle January 2021, we were very anxious and scared, but this time it just felt RIGHT! I started to spot around 5 weeks so I contacted my midwife who booked me in for a early scan, she was reluctant to do it as I was so early but she wanted to reassure me, I had my first scan at 7 weeks, she said my gestational sac was measuring at 6 weeks, (a week behind) and was empty, she booked me in the following week (7 weeks) and there was a yolk sac but could not see anything inside, they booked me in the next week to see if anything had grown, it hadn't (8 weeks) I got home and me and my partner both cried, knowing it was all over before it had even began, the following morning I started to bleed heavy with clots, (spotted from 5 weeks) I rang the midwife and she said sounds like the start of a miscarriage, I went back in a week for a scan and they confirmed I had miscarried again for the second time in 2 month (February 2021). I have been heartbroken, felt guilty, upset, angry... I cry when I see an announcement on social media, I cross the road if there is a woman with a pram walking towards me.

We are ready to try again, (March 2021) we have been given the go ahead to try but I am so scared, I feel like it is going to happen all over again. I am already scared at how anxious I am going to be every time I go to the loo, or feel a twinge, I feel like I just need to wrap myself in a bubble!

I just want to know if any of you have any successful stories, I have lived on here reading stories but it seems 99% of the stories have already got children, so I just wondered if there is anyone who has had 2 miscarriages with no children who have gone on to have successful pregnancy the third time? I have spoken to The Miscarriage Association and they said that only 1% of women will have a third miscarriage but I just want to hear it from one of that 1%!

Sorry it's long.

TIA Ladies.

@Nicolala4 I'm so so sorry for your losses. I can relate to how you've described that you are feeling. I don't have a positive story yet but I've had 4 very early miscarriages 4-5 weeks. It feels very difficult to be part of that 1%. But I am trying to stay positive and hopeful and we are continuing to try. So far my basic bloods and scans have come back clear apart from a bicornuate uterus (heart shaped uterus) which shouldn't be causing the losses.

I'm sorry about what you've been going through. We are in month 8 of ttc and I've been very sad, up and down, emotional this month. We have been actively trying for the past 3 months (not so actively before) so I hope it will happen for us sometime soon. Just know you're not alone 💕

@choccrumpet thank you for your reply.
So sorry to hear about your losses, I know how emotionally heartbreaking it is. 💔 it's so hard seeing everyone around you falling pregnant easily, first month of trying, hopefully we will get our time soon enough. We've been trying for a week now and I have had ovulation symptoms but not confirmed with LH strips as they're not delivered yet, so I'm not hopeful this month, but it's my birthday next month, hoping that I could get my birthday wishes!

Wishing you all the luck in the world. 🙏🌈 xx

Yes, I had 2 miscarriages then my 3rd pregnancy was fine.
Good luck

@kroptopbelly sorry for your previous losses and congratulations with your third, I really hope I'm the same with a successful third. 🙏 xx

@Nicolala4 I am so sorry you had to go through that!
I am in a similar position, I fell pregnant in September (was not planned), and had a mc in November (8 weeks). Took a long time to my body to recover, had no ovulation till February, when I got pregnant again. Unfortunately, I started to bleed 4 days after the positive test.
I really hoped the mc will only happen once, but now I am extremely scared and worried. There is also nothing else we can do. Me and my fiancé both healthy, we exercise, we take vitamins, I got a scan and blood test, and all came back good. The GP said I was probably just unlucky, if it happens again I can get some further check ups. I am worried what if there is a bigger problem, but I also I keep telling myself how lucky I am that I can get pregnant easily.

I guess at this point we just have to hope for the best. My fertile window will start in 5 days, and I hope this will be our month! I know how scary it will be, but we have to keep trying until one will stick :)

@Tina8800 thank you for sharing your story. I'm sorry to hear about your losses. Its good to hear that with the few tests they done there's nothing shown to be a problem. My midwife also said she thinks I was one of the unlucky ones, doesn't make me feel any better though if I'm honest, but I hope they are right. 🙏 baby dust to you for this cycle, hopefully you get your little miracle. 🌈 x

Hello OP. I’m very sorry about your miscarriages, I know it’s horrendous to go through.

I had 3 miscarriages before my daughter was born (I have no other children). It is true you are more likely to have a successful pregnancy than not next time, but even if you were in that 1% (as I was), it doesn’t mean you won’t be successful in the future. I had investigations after 3 mc and nothing wrong was found. It is relatively rare to have 3 miscarriages in a row (1 or 2 in 100, I was told) but that is still a fair few women, so you aren’t on your own.

Wishing you all the best for the future.

Sorry OP - reading it back over I don’t think I expressed myself well in my previous post.

What I was trying to say was - I had a successful pregnancy after 3 miscarriages. There is always hope and the odds are in your favour.

I think women have more miscarriages than they realise, chemical pregnancies happen so early on that many don't even know they had one so I don't think the statistics are 100% accurate but it's what we've got right now.

It also frustrates me that medics say it's "just bad luck". I'm sure (I hope) in some years down the line we will get to a point where there will be something to help women sustain pregnancies and have less miscarriages and understand that some of them could have been preventable. Not all have chromosomal issues and I think some happen because we don't understand enough about miscarriages and therefore don't know how to help prevent them when they might be preventable. It's easier for us to accept that it's bad luck rather than questioning and wondering whether something could have been done about it to prevent it if our doctors knew more about this than they do now.

I still hope all of mine are down to "bad luck" because I hope that I will have a successful pregnancy soon because the other way of looking at this is too difficult and there is nothing I can do to help.