Has anyone in their late 30s had a successful pregnancy after a miscarriage?

[Miscarriage39]

We recently found out at our 12 weeks scan than our baby stopped growing at eight weeks. There was no heartbeat. I had no suspicion this had happened and no typical miscarriage symptoms.

While nobody can say for sure why this happened, I have been beating myself up about the fact I may simply be too old. I am 39, but had two trouble free pregnancies in my early thirties. I would really love to try again, as DH and I would dearly love a third child, but I am terrified this will happen again.

I know nobody can say for certain, either way, but has anyone here had a one-off miscarriage at a similar age and gone on to have a healthy pregnancy? And if so, we’re you really anxious throughout the subsequent pregnancy?

TIA

Hi @Miscarriage39

I have just been through this and was on here searching for hope also. I am very sorry for your loss and hope you are recovering well. My story is a little different in that this was my first pregnancy, had a viability scan at 6 weeks all good and strong heartbeat. 12 week scan found baby had stopped developing at 9 weeks. I’m 35 almost 36, with pcos (although did have regular periods when ttc luckily). I’m also looking for success stories after missed miscarriage in this age range. I’m now thinking I’m too old, pcos, paranoid about my negative blood type. This has been the worst week of my life but I’ve been lurking on MN and found it so supportive. Finally plucked up the courage to comment. Again sorry for your loss and wishing you good health.

I had 3 miscarriages from the age of 38-40. Conceived my son at 40. Have heard many similar stories. Best of luck to you xxx

I should also say that I've known a few people in this age range to only have 1 miscarriage then a healthy baby xxx

Hello and sorry for your loss, miscarriage is a horrible and lonely experience. I had a baby at 38 after miscarriage, after having my first with no problems at 33. I hope things work out well for you, take care of yourself.

Thank-you so much ladies for sharing your stories.

Defaultuser I am so sorry you went through so much, but also so glad to hear that you have since had a baby. I really appreciate you sharing your story.

thedevilsavocado thank-you! I am so sorry you experienced a miscarriage, but so glad to hear you went on to have a baby.

H2C12 I am so sorry you are going through this nightmare too. I hope your treatment has been effective and you are in a position to begin the physical recovery process. I also hope you have good support around you. I don’t know much about PCOS, but I can only imagine it adds more stress to this whole situation. I really have everything crossed for you, that if you decide to try again, you have a smooth ride and have a successful pregnancy very soon. For now, I am thinking of you and sending you my very best wishes.

Hi OP, I know this is quite an old post but I am in a similar position now and find myself searching the web for stories similar to mine. I was wondering if you went on to have another pregnancy?
I’m so sorry for your loss, it’s devastating and lonely especially with the added worry of thinking it won’t happen again. I really hope you get your long for third child.

Hi @XalwaysworriedX

I am not the original OP but went through similar (but with trying for my first) and posted on this thread previously. I am very sorry for your loss and hope you’re okay. It is truly devastating and can feel very dark and lonely but you will start to feel better with time, even if it doesn’t feel like that now. After posting on this thread I did get pregnant again but sadly had another loss, HOWEVER, I am sat here with my 10 week old baby! It can and does happen. I am now 37. I hope my success story can give you a bit of hope! Sending you best wishes!

@H2C12 hi, I am new to MN but just really needed to comment on this thread which has given me a ray of hope following a really dark week. I am 36 and found out I was pregnant (planned) over 3 weeks ago but then last week lost my very wanted pregnancy. I was only 5-6 weeks but it has completely floored me and I'm in such a state with worry that I've left it to late. I just didn't even consider miscarriage or any possible issues with pregnancy and am kicking myself why I didn't start trying sooner. I have found myself going down a bit of a spiral of reading stories which I don't know is making me feel better or worse especially hearing experiences of people with multiple miscarriages and even further along. This has been the most painful experience of my life and I'm at a loss for what to do for the best or to make me feel a bit better. I know it is still raw and. very new but I am thinking maybe explore IVF as I am on the wrong side of 30's and really desperately want a healthy baby for me and my partner. I never in my life thought I would have to deal with these complex emotions and the thought of not being able to have a child leaves me absolutely terrified and devastated. Any advice or additional positive stories appreciated. Thanks

Yes. Lost a baby at 40. Conceived again and had my dc at 42

Yes !!
Had my first DD at 30 ... then miscarriage at 31 .. then DS at 32 .. then miscarriage at 6 months (hard) then DD at 39.. all unutterable perfect .

You can have a miscarriage at any age. I had one at 26. Don't be put off trying g if you want a third child. It's probably nothing much to do with age.

@inheritanceshiteagain @hadtochangetothisone @DSGR Thanks for the positive stories ladies as this was my first pregnancy I am just so shocked and devastated it didn’t turn out the way I thought it expected it too.
What are your thoughts on IVF? I am 36 and a half should I explore this now instead of waiting longer and wasting precious time? I will also try again on my first cycle after miscarriage. I have started taking folic acid daily too.
Just want a healthy baby and so scared about the future. I’m desperate for this and feel sick with worry.
thanks for listening.

I had a miscarriagecat 37, conceived again after next period and now have an almost 15 month old and I'm 3 months off turning 40. I hope everything goes well for you!

@Blughbablugh so sorry for your first loss but so happy you went on to have your DC. Did you do anything different the 2nd time? Did you conceive naturally? I’m feeling pretty lost and worried about the future based on my first pregnancy experience. I’m so happy to hear there is hope though. X