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Regretting getting genetic testing, such a gut punch

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secondorange · 18/02/2021 17:48

Well I had a MC fairly early on. Didn't diminish how excited we were though. I couldn't stop asking myself what I did wrong so I opted for genetic testing to give me closure. It was a baby girl with 46 chromosomes. Everything I had hoped, wished, and prayed for. I know it's not fair to say this but I feel like God just waved it in my face and snatched it away. Now instead of feeling closure, I'm really wondering what I did to deserve this being taken away as well as what I did to cause the miscarriage. Why is this so unfair? My doctor tried to reassure me that it was maybe a heart defect or the brain didn't develop but I can't think that the only reason I miscarried was because I had a large subchorionic hemorrhage (as seen on the scan) who knows if it was there before or caused by the mc. Im just so down and out right now and I don't know if I've ever felt this sad before. Just wanted to vent is all.

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Solomon1212 · 18/02/2021 17:51

I went through it last month. Mc number 3. Its honestly nothing you did, sometimes nature is just cruel. I sit wondering the same but try to think of it that something wasnt right. Xx

Emilu89 · 19/02/2021 13:03

I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending you strength at an awful time.
I had an extra large (their words) subchorionic hematoma and unfortunately miscarried. I googled why they occur and non of it fitted with me, I asked the doctors if it could possibly happen again in future pregnancies and the response was every pregnancy is different and it was unlikely to just be the hematoma that was the cause. I don't feel like I got any answers really, it was quite a brushed off comment. It's frightening trying to plan ahead into the unknown. The reassurance I want (and imagine we all want) nobody can really give! We just have to live in hope and don't give up. I'm so sorry. Xx

dippyegg32 · 19/02/2021 16:38

I had a mmc in December after a huge SCH was found. Whilst I was told "these things happen" my gut tells me it was the haematoma.

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