Miscarriage question

[Taybz]

This question is not intended to be insensitive or harmful so I really hope you don't take it that way. To those who have had a miscarriage before 12 weeks, firstly I'm really sorry for your loss and wish you the best in your ongoing pregnancy journeys. I'd just like to know at what point did you miscarry and did you have any signs that you were miscarrying?

I ask because I'm currently 9+3 with my 1st after a long time of trying and many of my symptoms have subsided including the horrible nausea, sore boobs and bloating. I know I shouldn't stress but it's really making me uneasy and making me wonder if baby is still there. I dread to go the 12wk scan only to find out that baby is no more especially since my partner is not allowed in. I've talked to my OH and he's understanding of my concerns but just says to stay positive and not have such worries.

Sorry to write such a long-winded post but I'm just so terrified of having miscarried and not knowing due to no signs. Have you miscarried without having any symptoms/signs? Again, I am so sorry for your loss and my thoughts are with you on this difficult journey 🌸

I miscarried at 9 weeks but Baby was measuring behind. Even when I started spotting I had no concerns I was even miscarrying at the time because I'd been told to expect some bleeding due to a sub chronic haematoma. It was only by chance that I'd had to go back for a re scan to check Baby's heartbeat had started that I found out I'd lost the Baby. Had I not have gone then I'd have found out at the 12-14 week scan instead because it took my body 5 further weeks to actually pass Baby. My sickness did dwindle slightly but that was all. Other than that I had no reason to think anything else was wrong.

I have had 2 missed miscarriages and have one child. The first miscarriage I had at 11 weeks and starting spotting, the pregnancy had stopped at about 5 weeks but I didn’t realise. All my symptoms had continued. 2nd pregnancy was fine and 3rd pregnancy was another MMC. I had a private scan at 7 and a half weeks and measured over a week behind with no visible HB. Was rescanned a week later and pregnancy hadn’t progressed beyond 7 weeks. If you are feeling anxious you could book a private scan before 12 weeks?

Thank you for your responses, it's much appreciated. I guess it's the bit knowing part that makes me anxious. My nhs scan is 2.5 weeks away which is not that long but it feels like an eternity. I think I may book a private scan next week. I hope things are getting easier for you and that you get your rainbow babies x

Hi, OP. I know how worrying a loss of symptoms can be!! On the contrary though, I had a mmc picked up at 10 weeks and had loads of symptoms still. In a later pregnancy with my DS, symptoms stopped at 10 weeks and he was fine! So, I know it completely drives you mad (because I was a mess in the early pregnancy days with DS) but there really is no way of knowing whether or not the loss of symptoms means anything. I think if it’s going to put your mind at rest, a private scan is a good idea.

@Taybz I hope all goes ok for you. My miscarriage was a week ago but am feeling hopeful for the future as I miscarried before my son x

I had spotting at 6 weeks, as I didn't experience this with my first pregnancy I went straight to the epu.
I had a scan that showed it was too early to see anything so had bloods done 2 days apart and they doubled as they should. The spotting stopped after a week but I had another scan the next week and there was a sac but again thought it was still early went back for a 3rd time and this time two empty sacs, this went on till week 10 when they finally 100% decided the babies had already gone but the sacs where still growing, that's when I had a d&c up to that point I still had terribly strong pregnancy symptoms.

My friend had a very similar situation to me but never had any pregnancy symptoms at all, so every pregnancy is so different.

Your also near the end of the 3rd trimester where sometimes the symptoms start calming down a little. Everything crossed for you. Xx

Hi girls, just thought I'd update you. My symptoms came back 2 days later albeit slightly less aggressive. I'm 10wks now and still very anxious but I'm trying to keep a level head.

I'm hoping you all have your rainbow babies soon and once again, thank you. I know it's not easy to discuss such a topic. x

Hey, I know it's easier said then done but try not to worry. I have been pregnant twice. 1st time was with my beautiful son and all I had the whole pregnancy was sore boobs for 2 weeks, heartburn, weeing all the time and the odd craving. That was literally all and it was a healthy pregnancy, actually I did have high blood pressure in the third trimester but baby was absolutely fine.
With my 2nd pregnancy I had more symptoms and spotting. Not all spotting is bad but needs to be check and after 4 scans found out the my egg didn't grow into an embryo or my embryo didn't grow into a baby so I am sadly miscarrying.
What I am trying to say is unless you are bleeding experiencing severe tummy pains just have faith that everything is good. Actually the placenta does take over around 9 weeks so that's probably why you feeling better :o) maybe a private scan could put your mind at ease? as your partner will be allowed to come in with you?x