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I know I'm being daft

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Trying93 · 30/01/2021 20:11

I'm not sure what the point is of this thread. I know I'm being daft but just need to write it down.

Been ttc for 2 and half years and had 2 mc in that time. Last one was in December 2020 and I got pregnant again straight away, so I'm 5-6 weeks pregnant just now. I didn't expect it to happen so quick because I was trying for a year or over the previous two times. I know I'm lucky and I'm really greatful, but quite nervous/anxious.

Anyway a friend has announced a few days ago that they are pregnant and due the same time I would have been for the mc I had in December. I can't help feeling sad that it should have been me announcing mine this week too. I feel guilty for feeling like this because im happy I'm pregnant again and I'm also delighted for my friend.

I can't stop worrying that if I have another mc then I will struggle seeing her getting to pregnancy milestones and having the baby knowing my baby will be a similar age. I know I'm being daft worrying about something that might never happen.

Trying to think of positives of having a friend with similar age baby but I cant help feeling the way I do. I feel bad because everyone on our group chat was talking about it and I said congratulations but I couldn't face reading the rest of the messages or contributing.

I hadn't really told anyone but my parents because it was quite early on, couldnt see anyone and I didn't want to put a downer on other people's Christmas. I don't want to tell people now because I feel it would take away from my friends news.

Just feel so emotional about the whole thing

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Flowerythoughts · 30/01/2021 20:37

Flowers so sorry for your loss. I totally understand. DSis announced she was pregnant when I’d not long had a m/c after IVF. Her DD was born on my due date. It was hard in the beginning but I adore DN so it only occasionally crosses my mind now and it’s just with a fleeting sadness rather than all consuming grief.
I understand how hard it is for you to join in the text messages when you are still grieving for your loss and have worries over this pregnancy. I hope you have a happy and healthy pregnancy and, in a few months, will be able to excitedly compare pregnancy milestones with your friendFlowers

Trying93 · 31/01/2021 17:01

@Flowerythoughts thanks for your kind reply. I feel better that I'm not alone feeling like this. Hopefully it will pass and my own pregnancy will go well 🤞

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