First period after loss advice
magpiecounter · 26/01/2021 06:55
Hi, I have a question or two about what to expect from my first period back after a loss. We lost our baby 23rd December and passed him on the 28th with medication from the EPU. Our pregnancy was the result of ivf so I had been on progesterone and HRT since September. He was nine weeks gestation. Our reason for needing IVF, more specifically ICSI, is MFI as I have always had regular cycles and hormone levels and ovulation. Even after my first son was born I was right back on track with the same cycle straight after he was born despite him being EBF. I got my negative test a week and a half ago. I add all this in case it makes a difference.
I'm awaiting my first period back in. I have all my pregnancy symptoms still like headaches, sore breasts, constipation and fatigue. However I'm well aware these are menstrual symptoms too. My normal (previous) pms symptoms were not this though. Again though I'm aware a baby loss can change things completely. I'm not naive enough to think everything would go back to normal.
What's happened is I have had a tiny bit of bleeding each day since Saturday afternoon. It's just pinky red, bit brown sometimes. It's only when I wipe and not enough to warrant a cup or pad. It's only for daylight hours too as I will go all night from about 6pm with nothing. As an avid cycle tracker my bbt is not raised or low. My cervix is high soft and open but oddly I have a lot of ewcm which is unusual for me. I was due to start Friday gone if it was a normal cycle so it fits timing but not behaviour.
Could this be my period? There are no cramps, no clots, no discomfort at all. Or is this a false sense of security and actually in about to be hit hard? I've been told it's awful the first period in.
magpiecounter · 26/01/2021 11:02
Anyone? Just not sure if I should worry or not.
warriorwomanx · 26/01/2021 11:10
I'm sorry for your loss.
Sometimes things will go back to normal straight away and sometimes it might not. Your body (and mind) has been through a lot. My advice would be to wait for your next cycle and see if that's normal for you.
magpiecounter · 26/01/2021 12:24
Thank you. It's slowly getting worse but no pain. Don't know if I can track it. The clinic want to know the first day of my cycle but I don't have full confidence this is it.
I'll keep tracking.
warriorwomanx · 26/01/2021 13:40
It sounds like it is it. It's common for the first one to be different. My first after last MC in November was excruciating but very light and short compared to usual. Is there anyway you can ask the clinic if they would count this as a cycle?
dippyegg32 · 27/01/2021 07:17
I believe I'm having my first period since mc. Saturday I started spotting and it was excruciating for 12 hours, pain lifted, bleeding started properly on Sunday but still very light. I usually use tampons but have been using pads this time as wanted to monitor the blood loss. My periods usually last 4 days so will be interested to see if this too stops today/tomorrow.
dippyegg32 · 27/01/2021 07:18
I should add that I'd had a scan where consultant told me I'd ovulated.
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