Baby loss at 20 weeks

[WorkingMamaBear]

Hi all

We have just lost our baby girl at 20 weeks, after 7 miscarriages and 6 years of trying.

Have other parents in this position held a funeral for their baby?

Thanks.

I am so so sorry you're going through this

I'm so so sorry for your loss. My heart goes out for you..
I wouldn't think too hard about what other people have done. If you would want your baby to have a funeral then you should have one. It's about doing what feels right and what would bring you the most comfort. 💐

I lost my son at 21 weeks. I had a funeral as he was born alive and we needed to register his birth and death.

Even if he wasn't I would have still had the funeral.

I think it's beautiful as it acknowledges them as our children. We have a place to go. They don't just become a "statistic"

I'm so sorry for your loss and please take care of yourself and allow yourself to feel everything.

I'm so sorry.

We had a small burial for our little one, and it really helped us. If you feel it might help you, then do it. Hopefully your local funeral director or faith leaders will be able to help with the organising - we found that they did virtually all the admin and talked us through it all, which made the process much less complicated than I had imagined it would be.

So sorry OP stay strong.

Sending loads of love and strength so sorry for what you're going through.

So sorry for your loss. This happened to me 21 years ago, we had a small funeral which was arranged by the hospital

I’m so sorry.

I am so sorry for you x a friend had a loss and she held a funeral for her daughter. They went to the ceremony alone and then had a wake that we all went to, where they raised some money did a charity that was supporting them.

Hi, im so sorry to hear of your loss. We lost our baby boy at 21 weeks in December and had a funeral for him last Tuesday. It gave me abit of peace knowing he is now at rest. We did a small service with immediate family, I read him a story book "where ever you are " by Nancy tillman as I wanted to say a few words and the words from this book were perfect, we then released 21 balloons as he was 21 weeks gestation. I wouldn't have had it any other way. Sending love to you ❤

Hi, I’m so sorry you are going through this. We lost our baby at 20 weeks last June. I found all the questions about funerals and burial/cremation very overwhelming at first, as it is just not something you ever expect to make decisions on. In the end we opted for a short service with just the hospital chaplain and my husband and I. My husband carried his coffin in and I read a poem. As hard as it was we found that it was something that helped us. Even seeing his name on the list outside the chapel felt like it was being acknowledged that he was here and that he existed. X

Hi so sorry for your loss.

We have a funeral for our baby boy. We let him go at 20 weeks as he had hypo plastic left heart syndrome and he wouldnt of survived. The funeral was free with co-op funeral. We just payed £60 for an urn for his ashes. I wasnt sure at first but glad we did. Lots of people came and sister said a few words and so did I. They made the whole thing so easy and out little boy had a small white coffin and then he was cremated xx