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Miscarriage/pregnancy loss

Find support and share your experiences on our Miscarriage forum. See also legal rights and support after baby loss.

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Surgical management for missed miscarriage.

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LuluF91 · 25/01/2021 15:35

Hi everyone.
I don't know if anyone will have seen my last thread but basically I am technically 8 weeks pregnant at this point. Although I'm sure I'm not. I went to EPU for a scan after a long time spotting/light bleeding and was misdiagnosed with a cornual ectopic. I had an admission to hospital and had 2 further scans with alot of discussion that they decided it is NOT ectopic. My HCG was still rising at last bloods 1 week ago but I was told it did not look good on the scan. I'm going back on Wednesday for a scan to determine if there was any growth as I was told to consider options to end the pregnancy then oh no...your levels are still rising. Great doctor.

My questions now is how bad I'd the surgical route? I had a horrendous night of cramps, vomiting and diarrhea and was sp sure that was it starting but nothing. I don't think I have it in me to actually physically go through the pain, especially when I have a nearly 2 year old at home. I have been so incapacitated this past week and just want this over with 😞 if surgical means I can go through this quickly I am willing to do so. It all hurts so much and I am so fed up of messages every day asking how I am.

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mammato5 · 25/01/2021 15:41

Hi. Sorry you are going through this. I had took the surgical route around 13 years ago. I had a 1 year old at the time and the pain was horrendous. Honestly the best decision for me as it meant i was out of pain and could focus on moving forward. Its a completely horrible position to be in. Sending you support 💐

Fayezp1210 · 25/01/2021 15:45

@LuluF91 Hello, I’m so sorry that your having to go through this, it really is the worst.

Having had the surgical procedure last Tuesday, I have to say it was a positive experience. The hospital staff were amazing, I had it under a GA and was home 5 hours later. I had a little pain when I came round in recovery which they gave painkillers for and I have had minimal bleeding since.

It is more the emotional side that I’m struggling with as opposed to physical.

I hope this helps x

DoodleLovin · 25/01/2021 16:01

Sorry about your loss.

I had the surgical procedure done last month under GA. I was meant to go home the same day but lost too much blood and they kept me in.

The surgery itself was no biggie as I was asleep and I had no pain upon waking.

Pimmsandprimroses · 25/01/2021 16:21

I was sadly in a similar position last week. I, too, have a two year old at home and I did not want to take the medical management option and be stuck with cramps, bleeding and a toddler at home.

I had my MVA last Monday under local anaesthetic. I was at the hospital at 10:30 and back home by 2pm. The staff were really friendly and reassuring, and luckily for me it was a painless procedure. I only needed one painkiller that evening, and have had very light spotting and no cramps since then.

I would recommend the MVA if your local trust offers it. Hope you feel better soon.

Carefree1 · 25/01/2021 18:20

I’m sorry for what you’re going through.

I had an MVA last year, which is similar to surgical but under local anaesthetic. Was home within a few hours of being at hospital. The procedure itself was absolutely fine, only a tiny bit uncomfortable. The staff in the room were amazing.
I had no discomfort or bleeding after xx

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LuluF91 · 25/01/2021 18:25

Oh my goodness....I don't know why but this is making me so emotional reading about you all. I've been feeling really weird about this whole thing. I don't know anyone else who has been in this position and feel like a horrible human being for wanting this over with...its killing me. I feel crippled with sadness and anything happy is being totally overshadowed by this sense of impending doom. That is extremely reassuring that the procedure is not traumatic...I think the dr could have explained it a bit more sensitively to me. This was such a wanted baby. Thankyou all so much.

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dippyegg32 · 25/01/2021 19:49

I had surgical last month, arrived at 12, home by 6. Actual surgery was painless with only tiny amount of bleeding but I had a retained product so also needed medical management four weeks later.

Jamjar77 · 25/01/2021 19:55

I’ve had two surgical managements for missed miscarriages, both under GA, and no problems with either. For me it was a way to try and move on - in both cases they were for blighted ovums, where pregnancy sac develops but baby does not. Thinking of you, it’s a horrible time but you will get though it 💐

LostFox82 · 26/01/2021 14:26

@LuluF91 I’m so sorry you’re also going through this horrendous process.
I found deciding which option was the worst part. As soon as I’d made the decision to do surgery I felt huge relief. But they then couldn’t fit me in for a week! Surgery was today and I made it - I’m just in recovery and so far no pain just some bleeding. Prob bit early to say but so far I’d recommend this option. Felt totally safe re covid and nurses are so lovely. Hoping I can now move on to focus on mourning rather than the horrible process

Good luck and take care xxx

Enola41 · 26/01/2021 14:50

Sorry for your loss

I had surgical management on the 15th Jan,
It went as well as it could in the circumstances and I was home by early evening (needed extra monitoring because of my heart doing something funny). Very quick procedure and little pain to be honest apart from migraine headaches which are down to hormones apparently.

I'm glad I went for that option.

TheDaydreamBelievers · 26/01/2021 14:54

I had surgery for MMC under GA at the end of November. Emotionally still tough but the surgery itself was pain free (didnt need the painkillers they gave me home), minimal bleeding, lovely staff.

TheDaydreamBelievers · 26/01/2021 14:56

One thing I would say - some posters on these boards have had MVA surgery under local anaesthetic and have found that pretty awful, so Im not sure I'd go for that.

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LuluF91 · 26/01/2021 17:49

It's been helpful to read all your experiences ...It makes me sure now that I was the surgical route. Preferably it would be under G.A but in reality I think I need to take the fastest route. I've had over two weeks off and used annual leave for that.

Second question..how do you deal with the constant "how are you?" Despite people knowing your situation is unchanged and they are generally just annoying you more than anything.

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LostFox82 · 26/01/2021 19:20

@LuluF91 - hope you feel relieved you’ve made a decision - mine was GA - I think local option depends how big baby is - I had to wait a week for op but sounds like most people get in sooner.

I’ve pretty much cut off the cliche texts from friends and fam who haven’t been through it and don’t bother replying or sending a one liner to finish convo. I think these boards talking to people going through it right now has been the most helpful thing by far.

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LuluF91 · 27/01/2021 23:40

So I went in today and wasn't expecting it but had a molar or partial molar pregnancy removed under local. I had heard of molar pregnancies but was surprised. The reason why it had confused some drs and why noone would actually go beyond explaining it wasn't a healthy pregnancy is it was a molar with a sac attached. I'm tired but can't sleep, some of the emotional burden has been lifted as I have stopped thinking of this as a baby now I know it was molar. I'm a little disappointed I now have to stop trying to concieve until approved to do so by my dr but I can't do anything to change that.

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LostFox82 · 28/01/2021 05:42

@LuluF91 I hope you’re doing ok, and that it sounds like you’ve got a bit of closure on the physical side. It must have been a shock to have the op if you weren’t expecting it are you feeling ok?
I don’t know much about molar but I gave permission for them to check my baby for it being molar post op. As you say it gives some rational as to why this pregnancy has ended.
Hope you got some rest -can you get sick leave - doc gave me a sick note no questions - I haven’t told work it’s a miscarriage so just got the to put gynae issue.
Take care. X

Mammybear2205 · 03/02/2021 22:37

Hi, I went through MVA 2 weeks go, I started to lose my baby last November. I had pains for about 2/3 days with bleeding then stopped. Right now I'm getting cramps and light bleeding. Does anyone else have this? It is a period?

So sorry for everyone who is going through this or has been through this, it's awful x

notalwaysalondoner · 04/02/2021 17:15

Interesting others saying MVA with local was not painful - I personally found it deeply unpleasant and painful, but it was still bearable, they asked me immediately afterwards on a scale of 1-10 with 10 being unbearable pain and I think I said 6/7. But the plus side is it takes less than 5 minutes, no risk of side effects with general anaesthetic, less risk of covid as you're not an inpatient... the bleeding afterwards was absolutely minimal, no cramps at all. My periods still took 8 weeks to return but that is probably quicker than if I'd done natural/medical anyway. I think it was definitely the right choice for me. And I'm confident that if I'd had general anaesthetic it would have been pain free too.

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