I’m so sad :( 5 th early recurrent miscarriage , what is wrong with me !

[Sadgirl28]

Long story short , within 5 years I have had 5 miscarriages , no children yet , all ending within 5-6 weeks no further , had testing done after 4 losses , loads and loads of blood work for everything they can think of , blood clotting disorder , partners sperm count ect but all came back normal , I haven’t had hcg scan done yet to check my uterus which could be the only real problem.... currently losing my 5 th pregnancy now 🥺😢 giving up hope like for real , so many pregnancy’s and same result every time ! I feel hopeless ! I feel like a failure as a woman ... I am 28 and getting old now 😭

@Sadgirl28 I'm so sorry you're going through this.
Firstly although I can sense the panic and understand, you are definitely not old when it comes to conceiving. Not even close. Don't add that on top of the worry you already feel.

I would definitely book in for a scan to check the anatomy of your uterus as the next stop, if you can. There can be issues with the structure which can cause problems. Have you had your progesterone tested?

Unexplained miscarriages are incredibly frustrating and heartbreaking. I am there myself and it is so painful to keep losing hope like this. But there is definitely still hope for you, don't give upThere is a book called 'it starts with the egg' that you might want to look at. If nothing else makes you feel you're doing something.

@Alicia870 thank your or your lovely message , I teared up reading this 😢 I haven’t had progesterone tested I don’t think , I had so many bloods done I don’t even remember anymore , all I know it was all normal . I really blame myself for this pregnancy loss I am experiencing right now because I should have gone to doctors straight away but I didn’t, I didn’t think they would do anything other than say come back in few weeks that’s why I didn’t bother going so early , but then yesterday I started following some people on YouTube who also have had loads of miscarriages very early and they said they went to doctors straight away and got put on progesterone and blood thinners and Baby aspirin , and they had a baby at the end even tho they didn’t have clotting problem but somehow it helped ! . But I only found this information out after I lost mine this week . Next time I will defanetly go straight away to doctors and demand these medications . I blame myself , I could of had this baby now and now I have to try again for so long , took me 1 year to conceive this one

I'm so sorry @Sadgirl28
I truly do understand and it's so so hard. Every situation is different but I've had 3 recurrent losses in the past 8 months and lost a baby at 22 weeks. There are lots of women who understand, so please don't feel alone. I have often contacted the miscarriage association and had a chat with them and they're very supportive.

Please don't blame yourself, this is not your fault. It's very unlikely there would have been anything you could have done to have saved the pregnancy. Have you been seen by the recurrent miscarriage clinic? Sometimes they recommend progesterone/aspirin for recurrent miscarriage. Tommy's are a charity that have clinics throughout England that you could look into?

There can be things called natural killer cells that can cause early losses, but I don't think they are always researched in the nhs. Someone else who knows more might be able to shed more light.

Sometimes there really is nothing you can do to stop this happening. I absolutely detest the term 'just bad luck' but sometimes it is and my god does it feel unfair. I understand it feels like you have no power and you just want to take a tablet or something to make it work. I wish I could as well and it really is so hard. But there are still further things you can look into.

Allow yourself time to grieve your loss. It is awfully hard and isolating. It can often feel like the world is falling pregnant and having babies and you feel so alone but you never are. We understand xx

Hey , I am sooo sorry you have lost a baby at 22 weeks this must be hardest thing ever , omg , you’d never think it would happen so late !! I count myself lucky to lose mine at 5/6 weeks not 22 ! That would break me to a new level of sadness 😭 and yea I was seen by recurrent miscarriage clinic about 7 years ago , after my 4 th loss , they did all the blood tests then , which is ages ago really , now I have new partner of 5 years and that’s why there is a massive gap between my last 4 losses and this one now . At first I thought maybe it’s the male factor but it wasn’t . And in fact , I was referred to fertility clinic by my GP few weeks ago ,after doing the normal basic blood testing like hormones , semen sample , and thyroid , all was fine and she didn’t understand what’s wrong so sent me to fertility clinic by referral , but then just before my appoitment I fell pregnant and I cancelled my appoitment , now I am back to square one . I don’t know if I have to go back to my GP to reffer me again or can I just ring the clinic and ask if I can have new appoitment as they should have my details already , but I am sooooo anxious person , I have social anxiety and it’s taking over my life too , I cannot ring doctors about personal stuff it’s feels embarrassing , I over think about what they might think of me after the call , and I get so anxious so I always avoid important calls even when I know I’ll be sad all day not knowing the answer when I could just ring and ask but for me it’s like climbing a mountain , so hard ,