Resentment

[Solomon1212]

Has anyone felt this way.
Last weekend i suffered a miscarriage at 7 weeks. It all started thurs night and by fri morning i was in alot of pain and passing tissue etc. This carried on into sat morning.
Problem here is that this is my 2nd MC with my current partner. We both have children from previous relationships however mine are teens now. His is only 6. Anyhow it was his weekend with his child and he bought his child to my house whilst i was going through that. I felt so much resentment towards the child. I felt alone all the way through it.
DH works most weekends except for when he has the child. So i felt like he was only there because of that not actually for me.
Its resulted in me totally shutting down, i feel our relationship is so damaged as i needed him with me, not to have salt rubbed into the wound. Im so ashamed of feeling that way and i feel selfish. can anyone help. Is this normal, will it go away??

I’m sorry.

I suppose the alternative would have been for you to be alone because he stayed away altogether.

So sorry for your loss

I had my 3rd MC during the 1st lockdown and it can be very difficult. Why did your DH still arrange for his child to visit when you were going through this prior to the weekend? Could he not have advised the mother that it wasnt possible this weekend?

Without knowing what conversations you had regarding the child coming, its hard to advise. Maybe your DH thought carry on as normal was best? Did you ask that the child doesnt come?

There is a call line here and more infomation which might be comforting and provide some support. Sending hugs your way x
www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/

He says he didnt know i was in pain. The fact i could barely move would have given that away i would havd thought.
I dont know why he thought it was a good idea. Surely its common sense?