Possible silent miscarriage

[stripytiger09]

Due to have a scan tomorrow to find out if I've miscarried.
Currently I'm 10+1, but last week at 9weeks exactly all my symptoms suddenly stopped. I had been feeling horrendously nauseous and being sick multiple times a day and night, and all of a sudden there on Monday I had nothing! I thought I'd wait a few days as I know symptoms can fluctuate, but come Thursday I thought it was past a time of fluctuation and more likely something was wrong. I rang the doctor who referred me straight away for a scan but due to Covid the earliest they could book me in was Wednesday (tomorrow).
I'm prepared for bad news but would like to know what happens after they tell you there's no heartbeat? Do I get ushered into a room to discuss my options? I've decided already to opt for surgery (it's faster and my son won't have to witness me in pain), how long would I have to wait for that?
Sorry for all the questions! I'd like to be as informed as possible before they give me awful news!

Firstly, I'm wishing you good news today. Symptoms can drop suddenly at about 9wks so it's possible things are okay. Also the hormone that gives you symptoms stays high even after a fetus passes away so some women have strong symptoms which do not indicate things are okay.

If they do find the baby has died, my experience is that they ask a second sonographer to double check. They then get you to go talk to an EPU nurse about all the options- for misscarriage and for what you want to do with the remains. They'll give you time to go away and think it through if you want or can book in if you already know.

Pre surgery I had bloods, a pre op appt, then a covid test and had to isolate between the test and surgery

@TheDaydreamBelievers thank you so much. I've been unwell a couple of times since Monday last week but generally feeling fine. I wonder if it's just residual hormones? An hour and a half to go before my appointment I've already decided on having the surgical option if it's available, I can't be at home with my son when it happens as he's too young to understand and will want to be with me the whole time which is completely impractical.
I'm sorry you've had to go through this too. It seems even worse in the current times, somehow it feels like there's a lot less support

@stripytiger09 to be honest I think suppirt for first trimester loss is always pretty poor. However, covid has worsened staff shortages, reduced access to scans and for surgical slots. Also means no one can physically be with you and if you have a partner you have to isolate from them too. The nhs doesnt do a whole lot of support for MC generally, although I must say all the individual Drs and Nurses I saw were v kind

Keeping everything crossed for you xx