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Any stepparents here?

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LowestEbb · 06/01/2021 18:52

Just looking for some support from those in similar situation.
I had a MMC 3 weeks ago.
My DH has 4 children 6-14yrs from previous marriage. I adore them and we have a great relationship, but they're not mine. Sometimes I see how DH is with them and it just breaks my heart. In my darkest moments I feel like his ex, who is by all accounts a shocking mother, could give him 4 and I can't even give him one. I feel like I've let him down.

Being a stepparent can be a very joyful experience, but at times like this it just makes everything so much harder.

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LowestEbb · 06/01/2021 19:30

Anyone? Sad

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XelaM · 08/01/2021 21:30

So sorry for your loss. Didn’t want to read and run. I had a miscarriage and went on to have a healthy baby afterwards.

Pipandmum · 08/01/2021 21:36

I'm sorry for your heartbreak, but really don't equate one persons fertility with yourself. One has nothing to do with the other.
But I understand - i did feel unreasonably smug when I gave birth to our daughter, after his ex only had boys and there were no other girls in that generation (and yes I do know it is the sperm that determines the sex).

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