Pain and clots again two weeks after miscarriage

[Goatscheesewithhoney]

Hi

Just that really.

I had medical management 15 days ago, at 8 weeks.

It took three to pass and there were a lot of big clots and pieces of tissue. Then the pain went.

I’ve never stopped bleeding since but it had turned to brown blood and had starting reducing day by day in the last week so not too much in the last few days.

Tonight, I suddenly got pain like severe period pain (or the beginning of the miscarriage). I went to check and the pad was filled with bright red blood and when I sat on the loo I felt something pass out of me.

I have taken codeine for the pain. I am so tired. I am wondering if maybe it is my period, as it is two weeks on?

I have got a banging headache but apart from that, and the heavy period type pain, I feel well. I can’t bear the thought of phoning the EPU tomorrow; I thought it was all over and I would never need to go back there again

I am sorry for your loss!
It must be very exhausting! Did you take pregnancy test? It sounds like you passed the sac last night. Did the bleeding stop or reduce now? My MC lasted 16 days, I bled for 8 days before and had 8 days of spotting after. I had my period exactly 4 weeks after I passed the sac. It was really strange, my hormones were all over the place, lot of bleeding, clots and some pain. But you definitely can`t get your period before the hcg level drops.

Thank you @Tina8800 - I didn’t even think of that!

I used the one they gave me (was supposed to wait for three weeks) after 10 days, just out of curiosity ( and still strong positive) but I’ll get another and that will help me figure it out hopefully x

Hi @Goatscheesewithhoney. If it helps, I had a similar experience to you, in the sense that my miscarriage happened in 2 stages about a week apart.

I had a MMC which was discovered at a 11 week scan at the EPU. 2 days later I had heavy bleeding and passed large clots, followed by a week of period like bleeding. I thought the main part of the miscarriage was done. However I then experienced quite severe pains one evening (a week after the first big bleed) and passed even larger clots and a huge amount of blood - so much so that I called 111 and they told me to go to A&E.

It was all very distressing. My bleeding actually lasted for ages, and I have had 2 rounds of medical management. Finally, about 4 weeks after the initial bleed, I am finally turning a corner and only have a tiny amount of blood (more like brown-ish) each day, and a home pregnancy test is showing a very faint line.

I feel like they don't tell you that the miscarriage can
a) go on for this long
b) happen in stages

So I hope maybe my experience helps you and lets you know you're not alone

Thank you @Tartanblanket1000. I’m so sorry you had to go through this too.

I ended up having to go back for another scan and then (as the scan showed something there which is either tissue or infection) having another round of tablets for medical management, plus antibiotics in case.

I am so tired. Going back for another scan this week and if it hasn’t worked then a d and c. They were pressuring me to have that done awake if it is needed and I said no. In fact, they told me that is what would happen, as if I didn’t have another option, until I questioned “Are you telling me I will be refused a GA if I ask for one?”

I feel really misled. They pushed me away from surgery right from the beginning by being really negative about it.

“We can’t get you in until after the weekend/you’ll have to sit and wait all day and might still get sent home until the next day/we have been very busy and not being funny but you are medically fit so other emergencies will be seen first/you will have to isolate for three days you know/better not to have a GA if you don’t need one ” and it was obvious they wanted me to agree to have it done whilst awake.

I didn’t want that. I still don’t. I hate hospitals and have a very low pain threshold and am so tired of being poked and prodded already.

But I thought if the medical management didn’t work then I would go in for surgery as the next option, not be told to try medical management again and go through the whole process of waiting for another scan!!

If I could choose again, or advise someone else I would advise straight in for surgery. Having it dragged out like this is so so hard, physically and emotionally

@Goatscheesewithhoney I have had 3 scans so far. Scan 1 was finding out about the MMC, then I had the 2nd scan 2 weeks later, then the 3rd scan 2 weeks after that. I have ANOTHER (4th) scan booked in for 19th Jan. Basically, the tissue I have left is taking ages to go. Despite 2x heavy bleeds and then 2x rounds of medical management, it's taking a while to budge! I'm also on antibiotics.

I wasn't even offered a D+C. I don't know why... I expected them to give me options but the consultant told me I was doing medical management. There was no arguing with him. It's so hard going to all the appointments alone, you feel you have no one to fight your corner.

I have heard they aren't offering D+Cs very readily right now because of covid. If you have a low pain threshold then I don't think you should go for non GA option. I have read (on mumsnet threads here) very mixed things about it - some saying it was fine and others saying it is really painful.

I really hope it is over for you soon, in one way or another. It is so exhausting. Try and rest as much as possible and do chilled things at home that make you happy and take your mind off it.

That is awful, I feel really sad that you weren’t even offered it.

I was told, when I asked, that there was a 10-15 % chance that the medical management would fail, and that I would need surgery anyway.

It is really hard alone and the atmosphere feels really horrible when you are sitting alone with a mask on, opposite two other people with their masks on, discussing a horrible range of options (or no options even!)

I really hope you got the all clear on the next scan. I have no idea it could go on like this. I have been working from home, and can’t afford any more sick leave, so was working the other day with the camera off in a meeting as I was doubled up in pain, just hoping no-one would ask me any questions until I’d got my breath back

@Goatscheesewithhoney Oh no, you should be able to take time off if you need but I know it's hard with some jobs. If you have a trusted female manager you should definitely tell them what is going on. You never know, chances are they have been through something similar.

I was "lucky" that most of my intense miscarriage moments happened the week before christmas so I only had to take a bit of time off before the Christmas break. I usually work long hours (WFH though) and it is tough, but I had an understanding team and I told a couple of them what was happening.

Don't underestimate how tired it can make you feel. Even if you're not physically bleeding or cramping, your body will be tired and rest is important.