Early twin loss?

[MrsMyreton]

Evening everyone,

Long story short, during my last pregnancy, at about 6 weeks, I started bleeding, cramping etc. then after many hours passed what was clearly not a clot (and what we thought was the entire pregnancy). Booked in for scan at the hospital four days later to confirm miscarriage. Scan showed one baby and a bleed remaining. From what I experienced and passed, the doctor and midwife believed it to be the loss of an early twin. Pleased to say the other bean held on tight and is asleep on me now.

When I spoke to a friend about this, not long after it happened, she was very disbelieving that this was 'a thing' and must have been incorrect (and that I was essentially, grieving/upset about it for no reason).

Has anyone experienced a loss like this? It's silly, but I guess I just felt embarrassed and a bit like what the hospital had said couldn't have been true? Silly, but with new year coming in, I guess I've been thinking about the 'twin' that could have been.

Thanks all!

Not quite the same but I had bleeding and cramping when I was about 11 weeks. I figured that was it, but then still kept getting positive pregnancy tests weeks later. I had to go to the hospital to be scanned and they said they think I had been pregnant with triplets. I had miscarried most of one of them, but there were still two left in there. Sadly they didn't make it either.
But it is definitely possible.

If you feel the need to greive for your loss, then do so. Your friend has no right to tell you how to feel about it.

Yes happened to me. I had an early scan at 6 weeks and saw two very clearly. At our next scan at 9 weeks, one had gone and the nurse confirmed I had lost one. I still think about it nearly 5 years on.

Thank you both so much, I really appreciate hearing your experiences and I'm sorry you went through something similar.

I'm so sorry for your loss.
Shocked that your "friend" would question you on something so tragic.

Hasn't happened to me so can't provide any insight but I read this same thing happened to Chloe Lewis from TOWIE (z list celeb I know but your friend can read up on it )

Thanks @Snailandthewhale - slightly ashamed to say I know who you're talking about (used to be an avid TOWIE fan before babies took over 🙈). Will look it up.