3rd miscarriage in a row

[Noot]

Hello, having my 3rd miscarriage in a row, which started Christmas Eve. It’s a horrible repeat of last Christmas when I started bleeding a few days before Christmas. I then had another miscarriage in June. We have a 2.5 year old and I’m struggling to interact with him. Just want to hear from some sympathetic voices who understand. Thanks xx

@Noot so sorry to read this. I understand. Had my 3rd beginning of November and I think my 4th may be looming. How far along are you? Here to hold your hand ❤️

I’m so sorry. 10 weeks. Thanks.

I'm so sorry to read your post.

I had the same happen to me after my first child. It's not easy and so hard. People who have never had a miscarriage tell you to be grateful that you already have a child, but that's not the point

I'm so sorry to hear this. What shit timing too. Life is so bloody unfair. Hopefully you can get some investigations started by your GP now. I had a miscarriage in September 2019 and I haven't been able to conceive since which has been rubbish, also hoping to get some more investigations started in the new year. Look after yourself x

@chottie Sorry to hear that.

@lavenderlove I’m so sorry to hear that. I hope you’re able to have investigations and they help.

@Noot so sorry as PP said, you should get some investigations now. I hope this doesn't come across as insensitive - but if this is you're third in a row you should be able to get the foetus (I'm sorry, I don't know what word to use here) tested if that's something you wish to be done. You won't always get answers though (I haven't)

No, it’s not insensitive- the fact I can have it tested is a ‘positive’ of having a third. I am worried about not being able to collect it though as I didn’t see anything last 2 times ... though this time is further along. Having a lovely time collecting blood clots and wondering if they count as ‘tissue.’

@Noot I would collect anything you can and keep it in the fridge until you are ready to take it to the hosp. I had to phone and let them know when I was coming so might be worth doing that too. I would definitely expect you to see something at 10 weeks. My losses only measured 6+3 but there were definitely things to take for testing. There was the sac and other bits that weren't recognisable as anything, but I was able to collect them and take them for tests. Make sure they know it's your third loss so they do genetic testing, and not just histological testing (I think they f*d up on mine and didn't do the generic as they didn't realise it was third) so make sure they know

Ok, good to know, thank you.

I just thought I'd send you a litte hello. I have miscarried with you but was only 4 weeks. This was my 4th time. Last time I miscarried at 8 weeks and I found the feotus. It has a head and arms and was about an inch long. You will find it if you are careful when going to the loo as not to drop it. However, the hospital told me that I had to bring it in so that they could dispose of it in the medical waste. This is not true! You are allowed to bury it in your garden or a flower pot.
I have now given up with the NHS and am going to a fertility clinic. What are you doing?

I’m so sorry to hear that. I want to try to collect enough for testing. I’m relieved we can now at least have tests. As we have a child already, it might be really really bad luck? Have the NHS not been helpful this time? Did you go to a recurrent miscarriage clinic? I wish you all the best at the fertility clinic!

@Noot I'm so so sorry you're going through this. I also have a 2 year old and have had 3 consecutive losses this year. One was after 20 weeks and the other two were chemicals. They're referring me for tests now but I had a lot tested after my late loss which was all clear. I saw a private doctor after the second loss who annoyingly seemed to fob me off on the basis that my first pregnancy was healthy. He said it's all very likely to be really bad luck. In my case though I do know both my living daughter and my baby boy had no chromosome issues so that was ruled out.
I really hope you get some answers. I've been told it's better to have it unexplained, but it doesn't feel that way.
Life's incredibly unfair.
Sending hugs and sympathy and understand xx

@Noot I'm so so sorry you're going through this. I also have a 2 year old and have had 3 consecutive losses this year. One was after 20 weeks and the other two were chemicals. They're referring me for tests now but I had a lot tested after my late loss which was all clear. I saw a private doctor after the second loss who annoyingly seemed to fob me off on the basis that my first pregnancy was healthy. He said it's all very likely to be really bad luck. In my case though I do know both my living daughter and my baby boy had no chromosome issues so that was ruled out.
I really hope you get some answers. I've been told it's better to have it unexplained, but it doesn't feel that way.
Life's incredibly unfair.
Sending hugs and sympathy and understand xx

I am so so sorry- that is absolutely horrific and so sad. Thanks for your reply too and sending you lots of hugs and sympathy back. xx

I hope you’re doing ok,@Daffodil21

I have never posted on a forum like this before and genuinely think it is helping me deal with this miscarriage a lot better. I feel much less alone, and it doesn’t feel like I’m the only one to have this experience. I am (not physically at the moment!) surrounded by friends and family having their second babies, some when my various miscarriages would’ve been due. I am much more ok this time so thank you all- you have made a massive difference to me xx

@Noot I'm still in limbo. I'm not bleeding anymore but I'm worried it's already stopped growing. Got a scan tomorrow morning so should have some answers then.

Hope you're doing ok, it really is shit

Ok, will be thinking of you xx

@Noot how did you get on with your testing? Hope you're ok