Trying again straight after miscarriage

[Goatscheesewithhoney]

Has anyone done this ?

I had a missed miscarriage and medical management last week. I still haven’t stopped bleeding totally but have an overwhelming feeling I need to try again as soon as I can.

I have read that waiting a month is recommended but I don’t know if I can wait that long. I know my age is the main problem as I had my DC easily when I was younger but am now 41 and have had a chemical and a missed miscarriage in the space of three months. What it I wait and this is the month I would have had a healthy/good egg?

Has anyone else felt like this or tried again so soon please?

I don't think there's any medical reason to wait a month before trying again, but you should wait until you've stopped bleeding before having unprotected sex - there's a risk of infection if you're still bleeding.

Yes loads of people try again immediately after, it's not uncommon at all. They only recommend waiting one cycle because it makes it easier for them to date a new pregnancy. I had a miscarriage 3 weeks ago and we tried again immediately, I didn't realise I still had thickened endometrial lining though so it wouldn't ever have worked this month but were perfectly fine with trying again.

I was told reason to wait was for dating, so they could be sure how far along I was. Although obviously a scan would work for this. It suited me too as I wanted to have a negative test and a period so I could be sure any positive was a true positive. I did get pregnant after one period.

Best of luck to you OP, what a terrible time of year to be dealing with this.

I did and got pregnant immediately. To be honest, it would probably have been better to wait another month as I was still very sad and a total basket-case with anxiety. Another month might have made things a bit easier. It was my 4th MC so I had a reasonable idea about how things would pan out emotionally.

On the positive side, the pregnancy went fine and dd2 is a total delight. I found out I was pregnant 12 years ago today (Xmas day).

I'm so sorry for your loss

I've had three miscarriages, and started having unprotected sex as soon as the bleeding stopped. I didn't call it TTC until my first proper period, but secretly hoped it might happen before then. It took 3 months after the first mc and 4 months after the second.

I think wanting to be pregnant again quickly is part of the grieving process, and, looking back, I wish I had given myself more time to process each mc. But, like you, I felt that time was against me.

Ultimately, there is no reason to wait if you feel ready, have stopped bleeding and had a negative pregnancy test. Good luck

@Goatscheesewithhoney I'm sorry to hear what you went through. I'm booked in for surgery Wednesday for a MMC. I've been told I'm fine to try again straight away it just causes issues with dating but they will scan me for that. Like you, I plan to start as soon as I get negative tests (anything before and you can't be sure if it is leftover tissue or a new pregnancy). Best of luck x