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How to stop feeling this way

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Rightthen24 · 20/12/2020 04:37

I had an early miscarriage at 6 weeks in Nov, I had 2 weeks of spotting followed by bloods and a scan to confirm that I was having a miscarriage. Once confirmed I started bleeding heavily and everything passed quickly with little pain. I got a negative pregnancy test a week later. This was my first miscarriage but second pregnancy, I have a healthy 4 year old already.
I'm currently waiting for my first period since the miscarriage and I thought I was doing OK but yesterday some friends announced they are pregnant with a due date of 3 weeks ahead of us and a potential of induction date of when my exact due date would have been. I feel like I've been hit by a bus. They didn't know about my miscarriage.
I feel really happy for them especially as they have experianced pregnancy loss themselves.
I just feel incredibly sad for us, I can sleep tonight and can't stop crying for what we have lost. How do I deal with these feelings while not pushing my friends away?

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IHateCoronavirus · 20/12/2020 04:53

Allow yourself to feel it, don’t be hard on yourself. I’m sorry for your loss.

Carefree1 · 20/12/2020 08:40

@Rightthen24 I’m sorry that you’re going through this. It’s such a range of emotions. It’s ok to feel how you’re feeling. A relative got pregnant ‘by accident’ and had the same due date as the baby we’d tried for almost a year. It’s incredibly difficult and you will think ‘what if’, that should have been me etc. The baby has arrived now (also my god child) and whilst I shed a tear, it wasn’t as bad as I was expecting.
Hang in there, it all takes time. Just be kind to yourself xx

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