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I had a miscarriage about 6 weeks ago, at 8 weeks pregnant. Second child (my oldest is nearly 3). I normally see myself as quite a resilient person and am good at bouncing back from things, but I am really really struggling. I’m so depressed and it doesn’t seem to be getting better, I can’t imagine feeling happy again and can’t see any light at the end of the tunnel. I keep on thinking I am lucky compared to a lot of people, as we can always try again and it’s the first time it happened, we already have a child. But I can’t get rid of this blackness that seems to be hanging over me, I’m desperate. It maybe doesn’t help that we hadn’t told many people about the pregnancy and my DH seems to be coping fine...feel a bit like I’m overreacting but can’t help how I feel. It’s a struggle to get through each day and I’m failing as a mother to my daughter. Not sure why I’m posting, just wanting some reassurance that it gets better?

I didn’t want to pass without commenting. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I’m only a few days past surgical management myself so I’m not as far ahead as you, but I am positive that it’s going to get better. I had only told one person other than my husband about the pregnancy, but since we found out about our miscarriage I have told friends and family as I have really needed the support. Would it be an option for you to open up to some people so you can have some people in real life who are able to help you get through this? I’m trying to keep myself busy at the moment (easier said than done in the current world) as I find when I’m not doing anything and alone I start to get really sad

Hey 🤍 I am so new to this.

I currently have a little girl 2 & a half i literally tried first time with my little girl and was pregnant ( I never realised how lucky I was )

3 years later I started to get exrem pain i ended up in hospital 2 times in 3 months with cysts and twisted overys being told I've recommended taking out a healthy overy as my tube was sitting low. At this point I had my implant removed I spoke to my other half and we both decided we wanted more family

So let's try. Yip happened first try again... but thats isnt as happy an ending this time

I went for a private scan due to thinking I was further on than I was I was way out om my dates so they asked me back I went back and there was a beautiful little heartbeat beating away at 6 weeks and at this point was told there was two sacs... so we thought we where going to get told we where having twins tbh I couldn't really come to terms with this I live in a 2 bed flat 2 up but we both said we would rather 2 baby than no babys.

Two days ago I started spotting I knew something wasn't right as I didn't bleed at all with my little girl.
I knew in my heart it was coming away.

I was due for a repeat scan ( private) same place again i went in and she scanned me and said I was messuring 1 week behind there was still a heartbeat on the tiny baby in the corner tucked away ( tummy scan )
So tonight I have had blood coming away and brown i know it not good news just completely preparing myself for Tommrow for my appointment with the NHS I do have cyst again on my overys.

There was no bleeding inside the sac the yolk sac was present.

Its trually heartbreaking I never thought I would ever feel as much heartache as what I do now know how ppl feel.

I haven't been 100 % confirmed its a miscarriage.

Was just told its a threatening miscarriage

I hope everyone is well and am trually greatfull for listening to my story xxxx

I'm so sorry for your loss How are you feeling today?

I have a 4yo DD, and currently going through my third miscarriage. I've been depressed after each one, and things did get eventually get better with time. Looking back, I think I could have done with some counselling though. Is this something that might help you?

I don't think you can put a time limit on grief. 6 weeks isn't a very long time really. But definitely speak to your GP if things don't seem to be improving.