Miscarriage

[Blessedmama34]

Hi,
In new here and have a question. I have 4 healthy babies and found out a couple of weeks back I was pregnant with number 5. I was on the progesterone only pill at the time so I immediately stopped. Went to the doctor to confirm. They guessed me at around 5 weeks. We were so excited and had already told all the kids. The next week I started to miscarry. I’ve been bleeding a good bid today and started passing clots. My doctor thought it was etopic but said from results it looked most likely a miscarriage. She is seeing me again in a week but other than telling me to take it easy I was not warned or prepared at all for the bleeding and passing of clots. I even passed a little ballon type thing in my pad and later read it may have been the yolk sac ? I’m devastated first of all losing a baby but now thinking that I just threw it in the trash is killing me. I asked my husband and he didn’t think we needed to do anything with it. What does everyone usually do if they happen to catch the yolk sac? Flush it ? Take it to the doctor ? Bury it ? Sorry if this sounds weird I’m just experiencing some serious post partum blues and need some encouragement and help from someone that can actually relate to what I’m going through. I’m assuming the farthest along I would’ve been when I first started bleeding was 6 weeks but possibly only 4.

Thanks.

I’m so sorry for your loss. I don’t have any experience with this, but the hospital had told me if I had miscarried the baby naturally I could have brought them to the hospital in a box they gave me for testing, and I think they also do a group cremation and burial. I think for your own peace of mind it might be an option for you to bury it so you can mourn properly? I think that’s what I would have done. You could then put a nice plant or tree in its place

@Blessedmama34

Hi, In new here and have a question. I have 4 healthy babies and found out a couple of weeks back I was pregnant with number 5. I was on the progesterone only pill at the time so I immediately stopped. Went to the doctor to confirm. They guessed me at around 5 weeks. We were so excited and had already told all the kids. The next week I started to miscarry. I’ve been bleeding a good bid today and started passing clots. My doctor thought it was etopic but said from results it looked most likely a miscarriage. She is seeing me again in a week but other than telling me to take it easy I was not warned or prepared at all for the bleeding and passing of clots. I even passed a little ballon type thing in my pad and later read it may have been the yolk sac ? I’m devastated first of all losing a baby but now thinking that I just threw it in the trash is killing me. I asked my husband and he didn’t think we needed to do anything with it. What does everyone usually do if they happen to catch the yolk sac? Flush it ? Take it to the doctor ? Bury it ? Sorry if this sounds weird I’m just experiencing some serious post partum blues and need some encouragement and help from someone that can actually relate to what I’m going through. I’m assuming the farthest along I would’ve been when I first started bleeding was 6 weeks but possibly only 4. Thanks.

I'm so so sorry for your loss, I pray time heals & you keep your memories precious.

I suffered a miscarriage two months back with my first pregnancy where I had the exact same symptoms as you, especially with the bleeding & was told to stay at home and that it's totally normal.

All in all, I was in such physical pain in the hospital, and due to covid I had no support so I asked them to send me home & I just gave birth in the toilet.

I didn't flush it but got someone else to flush it so that I didn't have to face the daunting experience of seeing what I've given birth to after becoming so painfully attached to this first pregnancy

Dear OP, I am very sorry for what you have been through. It is a horrible, awful experience for anyone who goes through it. When I miscarried, I flushed away what came out. I too then agonised over what I had done. I don’t go back there mentally too often but at the time, I was so upset by the whole thing that I almost did it automatically and without thinking. I do know that my husband would not have wanted to see it, nor could we have done anything else with it really because we lived in a small flat. What we did do was buy a camelia plant (which was in bloom at the time) and now every year when it flowers, I think of our little baby who for whatever reason wasn’t to be. Please try to be kind to yourself.