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Waiting a week to be rescanned. I need to give up hope don’t I?

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Teaanddimebars · 12/12/2020 10:06

I think I already know the answer to this as it was clear the the sonographers think I’ve miscarried (and gave me a leaflet about it)

I went for a private reassurance scan at 7 weeks. I have older DD’s already and no experience of miscarriage, but am now 40 and had a chemical pregnancy a few months ago.

It took a very very long time to find anything and she kept asking about my dates and said she would refer me to EPU. Then, right at the end, she found a heartbeat. Apparently the position of my uterus was making the scan really hard (I’ve never had this before at any scan). She showed us the “flicker” but I couldn’t see it.

Was referred to EPU anyway as she thought it might have implanted in my csection scar. So, I was up all night panicking about ectopic pregnancy and what that would mean.

I went for the transvaginal scan at the hospital yesterday. The woman found it straight away and said it had implanted in the right place. So I was happy.

But then she showed me that she could not see a heartbeat , and that it measures 6 weeks. 4mm I think. I am sure of my dates of 7 weeks, although can allow a day or two for later ovulation.

They had a discussion , on the other side of the curtain, about whether they can accept the heartbeat scan info from yesterday, as evidence of miscarriage, or whether they have to wait 7 days to rescan.

They called their colleague who had carried out the private scan and she said it was such a difficult scan that she would rather wait the 7 days to recheck.

So, I am stuck really. Feeling in my heart like everything is going to be okay, and feeling very pregnant still. But knowing in my head that it is not good news and they we are only waiting 7 days because of the guidelines. My DH is still saying we don’t know for sure and it might still be okay Confused

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passthemustard · 12/12/2020 10:50

It's still very early days and sometimes a heartbeat can't be seen at 6 weeks. Perhaps you ovulated much later than you thought. Your husband is right, everything may still be ok. It's going to be a tough week for you for sure. I have my fingers crossed for you and I hope everything is ok next week.

Rosey15 · 12/12/2020 11:13

I had a scan at 7 weeks and it was measuring smaller, even though we knew 7 weeks was right as our pregnancy had been monitored basically from ovulation. X

Teaanddimebars · 12/12/2020 13:40

Thank you @passthemustard and @Rosey15 x

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Threecouldbefour · 16/12/2020 17:44

I'm in a similar position. Went for an early scan today at 6+6 and baby measured right but heart rate was only around 67bpm. I'm being rescanned on 23rd. Not ideal - almost wish I hadn't been for scan today now. Although I suppose warning is good as I've stocked up on pads etc. Feeling as though this is a forgone conclusion though and wait is going to be very hard. Sending you strength Thanks

Teaanddimebars · 17/12/2020 15:01

And you @Threecouldbefour Flowers I know the feeling of wishing you hadn’t been for the early scan x

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Teaanddimebars · 19/12/2020 10:08

Nothing had changed since last time. I’d had some period type pain during the week but that passed, and no bleeding, so I still had hope it would be okay.

I should be 8 weeks now but it was still measuring 6.

Out of the options given to me - which all sounded awful! - I picked having medical management at home, I took one pill there and have four to take tomorrow morning.

I think I’d have opted for surgical but they told me I might wait all day on Monday and have to go back on Tuesday if they are too busy. I can’t handle the thought of waiting there alone all day or longer. Feeling a bit nervous now though as I have a low pain threshold generally. They said ibuprofen or paracetamol and that they don’t prescribe anything stronger (which seems a bit cruel to be honest Hmm). I have got co-codamol from a previous op though, so the nurse said to take them half an hour before the tablets.

Scared of being in pain but also want it to be over now so I can start to move on.

Thinking of you @Threecouldbefour and hoping you get better news x

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Threecouldbefour · 19/12/2020 10:40

Hi @Teaanddimebars

I'm so sorry it wasn't good news for you. I also feel the same as you - I'll probably opt for medical management as it's not a nice feeling knowing it's coming but not when. I am preparing myself for the worst. I haven't read anything that's given me any hope.

I do hope it isn't too painful or traumatic for you. I'll be thinking of you. Let's hope next year brings better things xxx

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