Recuurent mc rainbow baby

[Rosey15]

have just had a baby 3weeks ago, after a history of recurrent miscarraige (8 to be exact).. after each miscarraige i focused on getting pregnant again. And when i did i worried from the start. Then when i finally got pregnant this time all i did was worry again, saying to my OH once the babys born everything will be ok. All the worry will be over. Now i am of course overjoyed at my new baby, but find my thoughts wandering to the last few years of miscarraiges, and everytime i think about any of them my heart sinks, and constantly find myself thinking "thank god its all over"... should i speak with my midwife about this or not?

I felt similar.
I had 7 miscarriages.
After my baby I reflected on my lost babies, I think it’s very normal to not forget to be honest.

I felt so desperate, bereft, sad for so many years during my journey to have my child that it kind of just became part of my every day.

That is difficult to just switch off.

Now, life as a mum, today, every day has taken over completely. My thoughts, my life, my time is occupied by what I do now for my child.
Juggling wok and everything else has allowed the pain and those memories to fade to a comfortable level.
Speak to your midwife x

So sorry for your losses and congratulations on your babies .

Can I ask was there any reason for your miscarriages and did you have any treatment ?

I’ve had 5 early losses in 18 months all my testing is normal and I am at a very low ebb x

So sorry to hear

Thank you . Sorry for the questions but what age did your losses start ? And did any of your losses include chemicals ? X

2 of them where chem.preg. my age was 25, across the space of 4 years then. X

So glad you have had a positive outcome . However I think it’s normal to reflect on the past and the be honest the trauma you have been through everything. X

Finley, sorry to butt in, as someone who’s been through this, please at least consider whether Hughs syndrome would fit you. It’s a blood clotting problem. Once I was treated for that I carried long enough to perm to have my baby.
Sorry to interrupt Rosey, and huge congrats on your rainbow! I think often all the stress only gets a chance to be worked through after we are safely on the other side...I ended up having some therapy which really helped. I think I had mild PTSD. Everything is also sooo hugely emotional with a little one, and hormones/lack of sleep. Go easy on yourself!

All my testing has come back normal
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Sorry to hear..mines were all the same. Im so confused and terrified that this will ruib my relationship with ny OH ...