1 year old DD and now 2 miscarriages

[WantingAnother]

Hi. I am 35 years old. My husband and I have a DD who is 15 months old. We wanted a small age gap so tried to conceive and I got pregnant in June. We went for a 9 week scan in August to find that I’d had a MMC. I had a ERPC procedure at the end of August. I then got pregnant again in October, but found out last week when I went for an early scan that no fetal pole had developed and so the pregnancy isn’t viable. I’m currently waiting to miscarry naturally.

My husband and I are of course devastated and I guess I’m just wondering if this has happened to anyone else? One healthy baby and then 2 miscarriages? Did anyone go on to have a healthy baby? Or do you think maybe we should accept this and stop trying? The miscarriages are so hard for me but DH and I feel so blessed to have DD. We’d love a younger sibling for her but I can’t continue to keep putting my body though this..... I guess I’m just looking for some insight into other women’s journeys. Thank you for reading

I'm so sorry you are going through this

I'm also 35 with a DD. We'd love a sibling for her, but I've had two miscarriages this year (a total of 3 now as had an MC before DD was conceived). I had an MC at 6wks in July, and a scan last week showed an MMC. I miscarried a few days after.

I feel the same as you. I want to ttc again, but I really don't think I could deal with another loss. At the same time, I feel that the only thing that will help with the grief is to get pg again.

The midwife who dealt with me after my scan said that there is no reason why I won't be able to have a healthy baby after this, as I already have one. But that's what they said last time...

Hi There

Firstly I am so sorry for both of your losses @WantingAnother @marplemead 💔

I am 31 years old and have had two miscarriages this year. I also have a DS who is 2 years 3 months old.

My first MC in April happened naturally at 6 weeks. I conceived again in October and was very nervous after the last miscarriage, so I went for an early private scan at 6+6 to have some reassurance.

The scan was only showing 5+2, no heartbeat. Sonographer said I probably have my dates wrong and to come back in a week. I knew something wasn’t right as I was sure of my dates. That was a long, agonising week wait and unfortunately my worst fear became reality when she said that there had been hardly any growth at all in that week.

She referred me to the EPU for a suspected missed miscarriage. By the time they scanned me at the EPU I was 8 weeks LMP. Still no growth since 5 1/2 weeks. Heartbroken. I started medical management on Friday as my body was showing no signs of letting go of this pregnancy. It’s so cruel as I just felt so pregnant still!!

I agree it’s so hard to know whether to keep on trying or not. It’s so heartbreaking every time.

Hopefully others might be able to give us some positive stories of pregnancies post miscarriage.

❤️

So sorry for your loss.
I'm in a similar position, having had my second miscarriage this week. Hoping this one completes naturally as really don't think I can face surgery again.
I wanted a small age gap too, but feel like it's just not going to happen to us.
I started a thread yesterday to see if anybody had gone on to have a healthy pregnancy after two losses. There are some really positive stories on there. I will see if I can find a link for you.

Hopefully this works.
I wish you the best of luck whatever you decide to do. I think we will try again in a few months time to give my body a chance to recover.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/4100911-Anybody-have-healthy-pregnancy-after-two-miscarriages-in-a-row

Hi. I’m sorry for my delay in replying, have been feeling a bit down while I wait to miscarry and haven’t been online. Still nothing happening naturally so I’m going to EPU tomorrow to get the medical option

I’m so sorry to read that you are all in the same situation as me @marplemead @Tryingyear20 @Username54789129671. It truly is so devastating and probably the most difficult thing I’ve ever had to deal with. I really appreciate you all posting and sharing your journeys, I know that can be tough to do and am grateful you took the time.

@Username54789129671 Thank you so much for the thread link- it’s exactly what I needed to read as gives me hope and shows me that it can happen. Thank you

I wish you all the luck in the world and truly hope you all get that longed for baby

I had three miscarriages between my children. I think youve been unlucky.

Thank you so much @Username54789129671
That link is exactly what I needed. It really gives you hope to see how people have gone on to have successful pregnancies.

@justanotherneighinparadise
I’m so sorry for your losses and I think that you are probably right and we have all just had some rubbish luck. Although it is a reminder of what a little miracle my DS is and just how lucky I am to have him.