Did anyone not know they were MC until the POC came out?

[Penguingal]

I'm wondering if anyone can relate to my experience. I'm just desperate to find someone to talk to.

I know with many MC, people are aware that they will be miscarrying whether that was because there was no HB on a scan or they where scanned directly after a bleeding event. Some people can decide how they want to manage the MC whether that's naturally, meds or surgery even.

I had a bleeding event with strong cramps 3 days after a scan where there was a heart beat and my cervix was closed twice when it was checked. My doctors kept saying not to worry, everything is fine and that bleeding and pain is very normal in pregnancy.

I wasn't scanned straight away as they have a rule about not scanning twice in one week, so I had an appointment the next Monday. One week from my previous scan but 5 days from the start of my bleeding event.

My bleeding wasn't heavy. My cramps were painful but they stopped after 2 days. Then after 4 days the POC came out of me after feeling a gush.

I wasn't told that miscarriage was a possibility and to expect that. Yes, I was worried for it and thought I could maybe be that but my mum said I was silly to be so negative with what doctors told me. My partner said he was sure everything was fine based on what doctors told me.

I didn't know I was having a MC until I saw the gestational sack with the fetus inside fall on the bathroom floor. I just feel so tramautised.

I am very sorry for your loss.

I have told 1000s of women that sadly their baby had died, they are miscarrying or miscarried. I tell ladies it was nothing that they had done and it is not their fault.

An ultrasound scan will not save a pregnancy, a dr can’t save a pregnancy- in-fact nothing can save a pregnancy if that’s the way it’s going to go.

Today I was told my baby had died - I saw my baby Friday alive and looking good for it’s gestation. I have had no bleeding, just awful cramping. From the moment I found out I was pregnant I had a deep down feeling of dread that this pregnancy wasn't going to be successful- My world just came crashing down around me - the devastation and emotions are exhausting but there in nothing I could have done and there certainly was nothing you could have done differently to stop yours.

Sadly at any point from falling pregnant to the day you give birth you can miscarry there is definitely no certainty that if you fall pregnant that you will take a baby home and that’s the cruel world we live in.

I’m now waiting to go back to be rescanned again and either for it to happen naturally but hoping they will offer me management.

Have you tried calling arc or asking your dr to refer you for some counselling?