Mmc

[Bluejay123]

I have posted on other topics but didn't realise there was a miscarriage section on here.
I dont really know what I want anyone to say, maybe a glimmer of hope, but I know that is unlikely.
I went for a scan yesterday at 8w5d, I am absolutely certain on dates.
The scan showed a twin pregnancy! One baby was measuring only 5w6d and had no heartbeat. The other sac was measuring 6w but no fetal pole could be seen.
I am devastated and shocked and just cannot process that I am pregnant with twins and I will likely loose them both.
I have to go for an nhs scan tomorrow and I dont know what to expect and what they will do since I haven't naturally miscarried.
My head is all over the place and I just feel numb.

I'm so sorry this is happening @Bluejay123 ❤️

I've had 3 missed miscarriages. My first 2 were similar to your scan experience where the pregnancy wasn't measuring up with my dates and I miscarried naturally around 9.5 weeks. I really hope this isn't the outcome for you.

When you go for your nhs scan, be prepared that they will likely ask you to come back for a repeat scan in a week or two. Was your private scan transvaginal?

Sending lots of love ❤️

Thank you for your reply.
No the scan wasn't transvaginal, they did ask me to empty my bladder so they could do that but I was in such a state I couldn't even manage to do that! They did attempt it but my bladder was too full so they couldn't see properly.
Yeah I have heard that about making you wait for a week or two, it just seems cruel when their is no hope doesn't it? Its so heartbreaking.
I'm so sorry to hear about your miscarraiges too, just awful.
X

If it wasn't transvaginal then I'd still feel hopeful, they're so tiny at the stage, it can be difficult for them to see, especially if it was an abdominal scan. I have a retroverted / tilted uterus and that can make things difficult.

It's such a difficult thing to go through. The two week wait is awful but sometimes the can be wrong and the follow up scan brings good news. I hope you get some clarity xx

Hi @Bluejay123 I hope things went OK at your scan today xx

Hi @VenusStarr thank you for asking, not good news unfortunately, scan confirmed the worst. I now have to wait another 10 days as they said they legally have to wait that long before anything can be done. I have to choose between MVA with local anesthetic or a medically managed miscarriage. Surgical procedures aren't an option just now because of covid. So devastated but wish I didn't have this wait either, going to be the longest 10 days of my life.

@Bluejay123
I am very sorry about about your loss. I went through the same experience 2 weeks ago, they were the worse 2 weeks of my life.
The 7 days of waiting for a re scan, to my body not rejecting the pregnancy, sleepless
nights.
I opted for a ERPC which was thankfully done last Wednesday.
It was my first pregnancy, and I conceived after 7 years.

I feel your pain xxx

@Rm232 I am so sorry for your loss and that you have had to go through this too. Did you get general anesthetic for the Erpc? I have been told I cannot get that, it has to be a local anesthetic in to my cervix and then the vacuum procedure and I will still be awake, im terrified and it sounds horrific. However at least it would be over quickly, really don't know what to do.
I am so sorry you were ttc for so long before this happened it must make it a million times worse, my heart really goes out to you. I hope that once your ready you will fall pregnant again quickly.
I have a 22 month old DD and I will never take for granted how lucky I am to have her x.

@Bluejay123 I had a general anaesthetic, so glad I did! The whole procedure from being put to sleep and clearing was 30 mins. I was petrified at the thought of it, but didn’t want to drag on anymore. I feel better today than I did last week mentally.

Emotionally not quite there yet.

I'm so sorry to hear that @Bluejay123 ❤️ it is really difficult in the wait between scans. Don't put pressure on yourself. I pretty much just stopped doing anything, just watched TV, cried and the occasional walk.
I did miscarry naturally with my first 2 but with my most recent one, I chose medical management as my hospital weren't offering general anesthetic surgery and I didn't think I'd mentally cope with the procedure. None of the options are a choice we want to make. I was dreading the medical management but it was the best option for me and was more manageable than my 2 natural losses in terms of pain. Thinking of you xx

I'm sorry for you loss too @Rm232 I've also struggled to concieve and now had losses. Give yourself time xx

@Bluejay123
Firstly, I’m so sorry that you are going through this, it’s truly awful.
To give you some reassurance I had the MVA with local anaesthetic awake and for me it is still the best decision I made. Personally, I found the injection in my cervix wasn’t painful, it just felt like pressure.
At most, it was period pains and was over within 10 minutes. They give you painkillers (suppository) beforehand and tablet to soften your cervix. The nurses in the procedure with me were incredible and put me at ease.
I’m sorry that you are in this position, make sure you take time for you and look after yourself x

Sorry for your looses too @Rm232 & @VenusStarr xx